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10 Reasons Why Libras Are So Hard to Date, According to an Astrologer Download Article Professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism explains what Libras are like in relationships Explore this Article IN THIS ARTICLE 1 They’re indecisive. 2 They’re very flirtatious. 3 They can be self-centered. 4 They’re superficial. 5 They can be co-dependent. 6 They'll do anything to avoid conflict. 7 They hide their feelings. 8 They’re overly sensitive. 9 They’re unreliable. 10 They're habitual ghosters. + Show 7 more... - Show less... Other Sections VideoWATCH NOW Related Articles Expert Interview References Co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and Annabelle Reyes

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This article was co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and by wikiHow staff writer, Annabelle Reyes. Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings. This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources. This article has been viewed 73,263 times.

Libras are all about harmony, so why do some people find them hard to date? Like all the signs, Libras have their strengths and weaknesses, and it’s a good idea to be aware of them before getting into a relationship with one. Below, you’ll find our complete guide on why Libras can be tough to date, including insights from professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism on what to watch out for. Let’s get started!

Why Libras Are So Hard to Date

Professional astrologer Angel Eyedealism says Libras are attractive and romantic, but they often flip-flop. This indecisiveness can make them unreliable or flaky in relationships, which is one reason people find them hard to date. Libra is also ruled by Venus, which can make them a little superficial and flirty with other people.

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They’re indecisive.

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1. Their inability to make decisions can drive you crazy. “Libras flip-flop,” and they go back and forth because “they’re constantly trying to balance things,” says Eyedealism.[1] As a result, you might feel like you're making all the decisions, which can lead to resentment. Just try to understand that, as the sign of the scales, your Libra is always trying to find harmony. They don’t mean to frustrate you—it’s just that they don't want to make the wrong choice, so they'd rather not pick anything.[2]
   • To help your Libra with their indecisiveness, give them just a few choices so they don't get overwhelmed. Instead of asking a super general question, like “What do you want for lunch,” go with something like: "Your turn to pick lunch. Are we doing Thai food or burgers? I could totally go either way."

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They’re very flirtatious.

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1. Libras flirt with everyone, which can be tough on their partners. Air signs are outgoing and super friendly, but your Libra might not know when to stop. They’re naturally charming and charismatic, so they might not even realize that they're flirting with other people! Libras just want to be loved by everyone, so they don't think about how their flirtatious behavior can hurt.
   • All this flirtatiousness is no surprise, considering Libras are ruled by the planet of love! “Libra is ruled by Venus,” so “being in a relationship is extremely important to them,” Eyedealism explains.[3]
   • It's important to accept your Libra for who they are, but that doesn't mean you can't stand up for your feelings. You might say, "I noticed you were getting friendly with that girl. It made me feel uncomfortable—like I wasn't even there."

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They can be self-centered.

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1. Sometimes, Libras might be a little too focused on themselves. You've probably noticed that your Libra prefers to be the life of the party everywhere they go. Their charm and charisma might be the thing that won you over in the first place, but if they’re not careful, their tendency to be a social butterfly might make you feel ignored or neglected, especially if they never ask for your opinion or find out how you're feeling.
   • If you’re dating a Libra, don’t be afraid to speak up and let them know that you’re not feeling like a priority to them. Chances are, your Libra boo just doesn’t realize that they’re leaving you out.
   • They’re naturally caring and want to make their partner happy, so they’ll probably do whatever they can to make things right![4]
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They’re superficial.

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1. Appearances are everything to Libras, and that can be a lot of pressure. No matter how wonderful and attractive you are, you might catch yourself feeling like you're not handsome or beautiful enough for them. You can blame Libra’s planetary ruler, Venus, for their vain streak! It’s not just the planet of love—it’s also the planet of beauty. As a result, Libras tend to be naturally attractive, and they’re drawn to people who appeal to their sense of aesthetics, says Eyedealism.[5]
   • For instance, they might make a rude comment if you're looking a little sloppy or unkempt.
   • According to Eyedealism, they also get turned off by anything that seems “gross” to them (like a stain on a shirt or anything having to do with hygiene).[6]
   • To avoid their criticism, take time getting yourself ready before you see them. They'll appreciate that you look polished and put together!

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They can be co-dependent.

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1. Libras will jump into a relationship just for the sake of companionship. You may have noticed that Libras are never single for very long. Eyedealism explains that this is probably because being in a relationship is super important to them.[7] While this doesn't sound like a problem, it can be an issue if Libra gets into something new just because they don't want to be alone, rather than because it’s actually a good match.
   • If you feel like a Libra wants love, but doesn’t necessarily want you, this would be a red flag! Make sure there’s genuine chemistry between the two of you, and that you click on a deeper level before getting swept up in Libra’s hopelessly romantic attitude.
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They'll do anything to avoid conflict.

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1. Libras have a hard time managing problems, so they ignore them. This can make it hard to deal with normal relationship concerns. They'd rather pretend like nothing is wrong or just tell you what they think you want to hear, which isn’t a healthy way to communicate in a relationship.
   • You can encourage or inspire your Libra to make changes and speak up more when they have an issue, but don't push too hard, or they may shut down.
   • For example, you could say something like, "I know we agreed to go to a movie this weekend, but I’m sensing that you'd rather do something else. I'm okay with that! What are your thoughts?"

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They hide their feelings.

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1. Libras are hard to get to know because they are afraid to open up. This sign doesn't like feeling vulnerable. They may open up over time, but their default setting is to keep their emotions in check and maintain a peaceful, calm attitude.[8] This can be one of their superpowers, but it can also be one of their weaknesses in romantic relationships. Negative emotions are normal, and it’s important to be able to express them in partnerships!
   • If you’re noticing a problem but they haven’t spoken up about it, you could say something like, “Hey, I’m sensing a weird energy and want to make sure we’re alright. Is everything okay?”
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They’re overly sensitive.

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1. Libras tend to take everything personally, which can cause conflict. Just because they hide their feelings doesn't mean they aren't in touch with them—on the contrary, Libras take even constructive criticism personally and tend to blow comments out of proportion. You might feel like you can't say anything without them getting upset about it, which can definitely be frustrating in a relationship..
   • If you bring up a concern, use language that describes how you feel, instead of accusing them of something. For instance, instead of saying, "You flirt too much with other guys," try saying something like, "I feel hurt when I see you flirting with other guys."

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They’re unreliable.

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1. Libras often promise too much, and then they can't deliver. In some ways, they can't help it—this sign doesn't like to disappoint people, so they can't say no to anything. Usually, they just take on too much, and aren't able to follow through with the promises they made.
   • For instance, maybe your Libra promised you they'd bring a bottle of wine to dinner, and they show up empty-handed because they actually didn’t have time to stop at the store after work.
   • In the future, you might preface your request by saying, "I know you've got a lot on your plate right now. If you don't have time to grab the wine, I can definitely get it! Just let me know."
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They're habitual ghosters.

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1. Libras will disappear without a word, and you may never know why. Rather than confronting you to talk about what's going on in your relationship, they may suddenly stop returning your calls or just disappear from your life altogether. Again, this is because Libras just don't do conflict. Eyedealism says it’s not a good sign if they suddenly seem cold, distant, or unengaged. “They’re so polite, so they won’t necessarily come out and say it, but they’ll do kind of evasive maneuvers.”[9]
   • Work on developing effective communication early on in the relationship, so your Libra will feel more comfortable talking about things with you.
   • If you notice them withdrawing or being less present, consider checking in with them about where they’re at with the relationship. This type of convo could reveal that they’ve been considering ghosting, but at least you’ll know where they stand!

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What are the positive and negative traits of libra men? WikiCassowaryReader988 I've gone out a couple times with a libra guy and I've heard conflicting opinions about libras so I'm curious what anyone can tell me about libra men generally and in relationships? are they cheaters or are they generally pretty loyal? do they prefer to pursue or be chased? how do you keep a libra guy interested/attract him? What are the pros and cons of dating a libra man? Read More Anonymous WikiEagle In my experience, Libras are the most devoted, engaged, honest, open, genuine, completely committed men possible. They love every last shred of you, good, bad or otherwise… they see who really are no matter what “state” you’re in, and love you because of your faults and flaws, and not not despite them. They definitely have a “standard” in mind for anybody they will consider being with, but once they decide you’ve ‘made the cut’, they accept that you’re human and not some flawless “ideal” who isn’t allowed to have your imperfect moments (ie not looking perfect, sick with a stomach bug or stuffed nose, bad hair days, flop clothes, etc). Once they know you’re CAPABLE of looking and acting “flawlessly” when needed, they get over the fact nobody is actually flawless, including you. And I truly cannot understand anybody says they are “flaky”… in my experience, they are like rocks! I learned what “I’ve got you” meant for the first time in my life with my Libra… No matter where I was, or what I needed, DONE!!! if I sent a text and said “I need to talk to you”, the phone was ringing with an instant of hitting send… If I said “I need you“, the doorbell will be ringing before I could blink. If they heard or sensed any distress or shred of upsetment, sadness, stress, anxiety… FORGET IT!!! I couldn’t even tolerate that… and it ate him a lot if he couldn’t fix it or make it better for me. If I was in any kind of trouble…flat tire, broken leg, didn’t matter!!! Flew to my side instantly.And there is absolutely no tolerance for anybody hurting me… At all… Under any circumstances. At times I feared for people who he even perceived as having hurt me in any way. And there was absolutely absolutely nothing he wouldn’t do for me… NOTHING.I don’t think I ever knew what it meant to be “adored”, how I SHOULD AND DESERVE TO BE TREATED AND LOVED, OR even what being “loved” really meant until along came my Libra. I’ll never again accept anything less from anybody in life. Maybe I lucked out! But if that’s the case, I’ve never been luckier.PS I’m an Aquarius… Pretty true Aquarius, but not at all distant or “needing my space“… That is one part has never applied to me. My Libra never wanted to be without me…and I LOVED it Read More Angel Eyedealism Astrologer & Performance Artist Libra is ruled by Venus, and Libra men tend to be very attractive people, and being in a relationship is extremely important to them. However, Libras flip flop, so when a Libra man is in a relationship, he wants to be out of it and when he's out of it, all he thinks about is being in one. They're constantly trying to balance things. In a relationship with a Libra guy, you definitely want to appeal to his sense of aesthetics, you definitely want to be not rude or gross around a Libra man. He gets turned off by somebody who’s coarse, wants a woman that is refined and intellectual, because he’s an intellectual. It's an Air sign. The Air sign loves intellectuals, but it's a Venus-based sun sign. So he definitely wants a woman who is attractive, but also intelligent. You can tell a Libra man is playing games if he becomes cold and distant, or not engaged. If he goes off by himself, then that's a really bad sign, because he's supposed to be balancing his energy with your energy. Libras find themselves through their partner. So if he becomes evasive, that means he's not interested in you. Libras are so polite, they won't necessarily come out and say they don't want to be with you, but they'll do these evasive maneuvers. Read More See all 33 Replies and Read Discussion

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1. ↑ Angel Eyedealism. Professional Astrologer. Expert Interview
2. ↑ https://www.costarastrology.com/zodiac-signs/libra-sign
3. ↑ Angel Eyedealism. Professional Astrologer. Expert Interview
4. ↑ https://www.tarot.com/love-and-compatibility/libra
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Co-authored by: Angel Eyedealism Astrologer & Performance Artist This article was co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and by wikiHow staff writer, Annabelle Reyes. Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings. This article has been viewed 73,263 times. How helpful is this? Co-authors: 5 Updated: December 23, 2025 Views: 73,263 Categories: Astrology Relationships In other languages Spanish French German Japanese

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