10 Reasons Why Women Pull Away And How To Get Her Back

If you’ve come to this article, one of these two things is at play:

You’re in the beginning stages of flirting/dating and she suddenly pulls away.

Or you’re in a relationship and she’s asked you to give her some space.

Regardless of your exact situation, you want to know why women pull away.

Perfect. Because by the end of this article, you will know the answer.

You will get:

• 10 Golden tips about what to do when she pulls away
• The first step for conquering the ‘pulling away’ problem
• 4 Things you DO NOT want to do when she pulls away
• What you want to say when she’s not ready for a relationship
• An effective and copyable message for when she pulls away
• And much more to figure out why she drops contact…

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After reading this article it will become crystal clear why the woman you want is pulling away and get the exact steps on how to get her running back to you.

The most important reasons why she pulls away

I get your confusion, bro.

You’re thoughtful, caring, kind. You give her everything you think a woman wants.

And still, she pulls away!

Why?

Although there could be thousands of different specific reasons, generally, women pull away from a man for the following three reasons:

1. She is no longer attracted to you.
2. She is dealing with some of her own issues and is not ready for your attention.
3. She’s testing you.

Over the course of this article, we will look further into these three reasons so we can shine a light on your personal situation.

Tip #1: She pulls away because of your pressure

A lot of men do this the wrong way.

Recently I received a comment (more like a short book) on a YouTube video about exactly this topic.

Let’s call the commenter Jerry.

Jerry went on a second date with a woman he met at university.

Even though the plan started off as ‘just having drinks,’ the date soon evolved into a full-on club party with an entire group of friends. Her group of friends.

Fast forward through the date and Jerry barely has a moment alone with his crush.

So he constantly drags her away from her friends. Constantly asks for her attention. And at the end of the night, before he goes off to bed, he texts her, saying he was disappointed that she had spent so little time with him.

The consequence?

She pulls away.

She texts less. She responds way slower. And she doesn’t entertain his proposal of going on a third date.

What’s going wrong?

Jerry was too needy!

Like a little child, he constantly begged for her attention while they were in the club. Making his crush feel that dating him is just like work.

“ I really want to dance with my friends, but if I don’t want to make Jerry sad, I have to stay with him. ”

The ‘having to’ kills your attraction.

She feels that you want something FROM her, instead of wanting something WITH her.

So in an ideal situation she wants to spend time with you.

How do you achieve that?

That, you will read later. But first, more about why women pull away.

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Tip #2: She pulls away out of boredom

Have no illusions.

Even though pulling away out of boredom is more commonly associated with relationships, boredom plays a role everywhere.

Are you boring on Tinder? See you later, alligator.

Are you being boring during dates?  Sayonara.

Hopefully, you’re wondering by now: “Am I being boring?”

Let’s figure that out together, starting with dating.

Maybe you had an extraordinarily fun first date with a girl. You laughed, you shared personal stories, maybe you even kissed.

Now you text each other daily.

So you think to yourself: “This is a slam dunk !”

That mindset is absolutely FATAL for your love life because a series of blunders is sufficient to make all your hard-earned attraction go out the window.

“So ehh… Dan.  *wipes sweaty forehead * What kind of blunders are we talking about here?”

I’m glad you asked. The biggest dating blunders that lead to boredom are the following:

• Firing questions at her with the speed of a machine gun
• Constantly asking her if she’s having a good time
• Only exchanging facts about your work and hobbies
• Giving presentations about your biggest beliefs
• Never contradicting her

Maybe these bullet points sound a little abstract. So I will clarify in the next tip.

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Tip #3: The 5 things that push her away

Nearly every man will commit one of these 5 dating crimes.

Here they all are, at lightning speed.

Playing interrogator

Never ask a disproportionate amount of questions. Because by doing that, you will continuously throw the conversational ball in her court without adding anything yourself.  If you ask her an excessive amount of questions, she’s basically having a conversation with herself.

Asking her insecure questions

Don’t continuously ask her if she’s having a good time. That shows a lack of confidence.

You found it good and helpful what I just wrote, right? Are you sure? Was I not too harsh? Did you really like it? #thisisanexample

Excessive factual talk

Be careful with talking about facts. Facts, by themselves, are actually quite boring. “I am 25 years old. I’m an accountant. I studied at Harvard. I drive a Honda Civic. And I like long walks on the beach.”

Not very exciting.

Having monologues about super niche topics

Another blunder is talking an excessive amount about a boring topic.

Maybe you like talking about uploading your memory and personality onto a futuristic computer so you can live endlessly in the form of a computer…

*takes a big breath*

…but most people don’t find that interesting.

People pleasing

And lastly, maybe the biggest blunder: Not contradicting her.

You see, not a single person on this earth agrees about everything. That is what makes us humans so awesome. Do you agree about every little thing that comes out of her mouth? Then she knows you don’t have all your cards on the table.

In fact, she will think that you’re being nice to her, simply hoping that she will like you.

How does this people-pleasing look to her?

Like you’re taking off your pants, stick your butt in the air and hand her a strap-on.

Obviously, I’m yanking your chain but you know what I’m saying.

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Each of these blunders displayed above will lead to boredom and to an end of your attraction.

“Dan, what about the impact of boredom in a relationship. Can you shed your light upon that?”

Most certainly, my dear reader.

In the next tip.

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Tip #4: She wants to get out of the rut

Okay, time for a woman’s perspective.

*puts on wig*

Just kidding…. about the wig anyway.  I will share the woman’s perspective with you.

Recently a female friend came by with a question about her relationship.

They have been together for a year, and even though he’s an AMAZING guy (she emphasized that several times), she no longer felt ‘butterflies.’ And she couldn’t put her finger on it as to why.

This is what I told her.

“First of all, over time, you will lose some of those butterflies, even after being together for a year.

That’s perfectly normal.

What’s not normal? When a couple completely embraces the death of all attraction and desire towards each other without any attempt of keeping it alive.

Why?

Because there’s a formula to desire: desire comes from distance.

And desire dies with proximity.

Just as a fire dies with a fire blanket, so a relationship dies when there’s too much contact with the partner. Both the fire and the relationship can’t breathe.”

After my advice, the pieces of the puzzle fell into place.

With eyes as big as dinner plates, she yelled:

My boyfriend and I are always together!

We do everything together: we shop, we shower, we carpool… we’re never apart!

So I asked her: “Do you know what to do now?”

YES! Cheat, hahaha!

The answer, of course, was to spend less time with each other and spend more time with friends.

Are you and your girlfriend never apart?

Meet up with your friends more often, or breathe some new life into some of your old hobbies or interests.

I go more in-depth on this topic in my article Signs of a Healthy Relationship: 11 Telling Questions

Tip #5: She wants space to think

Good news, guys:

As opposed to what most men think, women are not necessarily attracted to the man with the best jawline and the biggest bank account.

Women are mostly attracted to men with ambition. Men that wake up every day with that fire in their eyes.

Every woman’s wet dream…

Do you regularly get out of bed reluctantly? Maybe because you dislike your job, or this side gig you’re working on…

…Then odds are she has lost her attraction for you.

Why?

Because you give her the impression that you’re okay with an average life.

Was that deduction too big of a leap?

Let me explain it to you with some more concrete examples.

Do you:

• Not have a toned body
• Not have a good sense of style
• Not have well developed skills
• Not have a fun job
• Not have any meaningful hobbies or interests
• Not have kids

Then you’re probably not doing much with your life apart from consuming goallessly.

And that is not sexy.

Pay attention:

I’m not saying you should be a ripped genius that knows how to sculpt, paint, do calculus and contributes to science. But you do want to be an expert in something, or in some way, change the world for the better.

Otherwise, you’re (to put it bluntly) a parasite.

If your girlfriend or crush discovers that you live like a parasite, it will turn her off. And she possibly needs space to think about you.

In that case, she will be doing her own calculus.

Positive sides + Negative sides = ???

Do you not have too many negatives? Then it’s quite likely that it is over.

In short, do you not enrich the world in any way? You’re displaying unattractive behavior.

And she will need distance to think if you’re good enough for her.

Don’t give her a reason to be doubting you. Pull your weight. Contribute.