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Terms of Use wikiHow is where trusted research and expert knowledge come together. Learn why people trust wikiHow How to Know if a Virgo Man Is Pushing You Away Red flags to keep an eye out for in your relationship Explore this Article IN THIS ARTICLE 1 He treats you poorly. 2 He doesn’t reply to your texts. 3 He acts disinterested. 4 He’s not engaged in the bedroom. 5 He doesn’t make you a priority. 6 He isn’t eager to help you out. 7 He’s more critical than usual. 8 He doesn’t care about what you think. 9 He acts passive-aggressively. 10 He holds grudges on a regular basis. 11 He loves to pick fights. 12 He has major doubts about your relationship. + Show 9 more... - Show less... Other Sections Video Related Articles References Co-authored by Janice Tieperman Reviewed by Stina Garbis

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This article was reviewed by Stina Garbis and by wikiHow staff writer, Janice Tieperman. Reverend Stina Garbis is a Psychic Astrologer and the Owner of Psychic Stina. With over 30 years of experience, she specializes in providing personal and professional advice through astrology and tarot card readings. Reverend Stina has experience working with high-profile celebrities, sports figures, politicians, and CEOs. She has been featured in many publications, including Bustle, Vice, The New York Post, and Readers’ Digest and she also has a 200k+ following on TikTok. Stina holds an Ordained Minister License from The International Metaphysical Ministry University Seminary. This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources. This article has been viewed 148,989 times.

Every relationship has its ups and downs, regardless of you and your BF’s star signs. Still, what if you and your Virgo man have gone through a seemingly endless rough patch? Unfortunately, Virgos don’t usually take the initiative when they’re feeling unhappy, and often expect their partners to call it quits.[1] Don’t worry, though—we’ve put together plenty of clues, hints, and signs to help you figure out if he’s really pushing you away.

Virgo Men Red Flags

  1. He doesn't treat you nicely.
  2. He doesn't answer your texts.
  3. He doesn't act interested in you.
  4. He doesn't feel like getting intimate.
  5. He doesn't prioritize you in his life.
  6. He doesn't help you out very much.
  7. He tends to be critical.

Steps

1

He treats you poorly.

  1. Virgos don’t like to end relationships, so he’ll try to motivate you to end it. Virgos don’t like to end relationships, so he’ll try to motivate you to end it. He won’t hug you, kiss you, or say “I love you”—instead, he’ll try to push you to your limit. If he isn’t treating you with love and respect, he’s probably trying to convince you to end things. To get the ball rolling, he might:[2]
    • Nitpick every little thing you do
    • Criticize the way you look
    • Refuse to spend quality time with you
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2

He doesn’t reply to your texts.

  1. Everyone forgets to reply to texts sometimes, but he makes it a regular occurrence. Everyone forgets to reply to texts sometimes, but he makes it a regular occurrence. Maybe you ask him how his day was, or if he’d like to hang out later on. No matter what the message is, it never seems important enough to grab his attention. Unfortunately, leaving you on read is a classic sign that he’s trying to pull away.
    • Try to give him the benefit of the doubt first. Let him know how you feel when he doesn’t reply to your messages, and see if he tries to make an effort. You could say something like: “I understand that you’re busy, but I feel like I’m not a priority when you blow off my texts. Do you think we could come to some sort of compromise?”
    • Super-delayed replies to your texts aren’t a great sign, either.
3

He acts disinterested.

  1. A happy, content Virgo will love chatting and spending time with you. A happy, content Virgo will love chatting and spending time with you.[3] If he’s pushing you away, he might avoid striking up conversations or asking about how your day went. As a true test, try chatting with him about some of his favorite topics, like a hobby. If he’s acting disinterested and closed off, he’s probably pulling back.[4]
    • Look for a pattern of distant, disinterested behavior, too. If he only acts this way once or twice, he could just be having a bad day.
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4

He’s not engaged in the bedroom.

  1. Your sex life shouldn’t be nonexistent if you’ve been intimate in the past. Your sex life shouldn’t be nonexistent if you’ve been intimate in the past. Unfortunately, a disinterested Virgo may cool things down indefinitely just to make a point. Think about the last time you both took a roll in the hay. If weeks and months have passed since your last romp, there’s a good chance that he’s pushing you away.[5]
    • Try to keep context in mind before jumping to any conclusions. If he had a really long day at work, he could just be too tired to be intimate that night.
5

He doesn’t make you a priority.

  1. Virgos tend to follow a strict daily schedule and will make time for those who matter. Virgos tend to follow a strict daily schedule and will make time for those who matter. Invite him to spend some time with you and see how he reacts—an engaged, interested Virgo guy will be more than happy to pencil you into his daily life. If he’s never able (or willing) to prioritize you, there’s a good chance that he’s pushing you away.[6]
    • Ask him to hang out on multiple occasions. You might say “Would you like to head over to my place and watch a movie together?” or “Wanna grab a bite to eat at the food court tonight?”
    • Even if he’s busy one day, an interested Virgo should still be willing to prioritize you later on.
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6

He isn’t eager to help you out.

  1. Committed Virgo men love to lend a helping hand. Committed Virgo men love to lend a helping hand. From household chores to tough homework problems, Virgos want to be as supportive and helpful as possible. With this in mind, pay close attention to how he treats you each day. Is he looking for opportunities to make your life a little easier, or is he leaving you to your own devices? A distant, unhelpful Virgo may:[7]
    • Let the door close behind him instead of holding it open for you.
    • Skip over chores that he’s usually eager to help with.
    • Refuse to give you advice when you’re having a tough time.
7

He’s more critical than usual.

  1. All Virgos are a little bit critical, but their criticism shouldn’t be toxic. All Virgos are a little bit critical, but their criticism shouldn’t be toxic. A kind, helpful Virgo guy will probably point out if your shirt is wrinkled or if you have something stuck in your teeth. However, his comments and critiques are meant to help you, not harm you. If he’s really trying to push you away, he might make pointlessly critical, borderline nasty remarks. He might say:[8]
    • “Your room is such a pigsty” instead of “You could really speed up your morning routine if you organized your room.”
    • “You look like you got dressed in the dark” instead of “Your shirt and pants don’t match very well.”
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8

He doesn’t care about what you think.

  1. He should be interested and invested in what you have to say, not dismissive. He should be interested and invested in what you have to say, not dismissive. Take notes during your next conversation. Does he seem genuinely interested and invested in what you have to say, or is he just shrugging off your thoughts and opinions? A distant, uncaring Virgo may be trying to push you away. He might:[9]
    • Act like his opinion matters more than yours
    • Not pay attention when you tell him something important
    • Not remember things you mentioned in previous conversations
9

He acts passive-aggressively.

  1. Petty remarks, snide comments, and bouts of silent treatment are big red flags. Petty remarks, snide comments, and bouts of silent treatment are big red flags. Pay attention to how he treats you on a day-to-day basis, and how he reacts to minor inconveniences. Does he seem to make a big deal out of nothing, or turn the slightest inconvenience into a huge issue? Non-stop passive-aggressive language could definitely be a sign that he’s pulling away.[10] He might say:[11]
    • “I’m not mad” when he’s clearly upset.
    • “Fine. It’s whatever” instead of sharing how he’s really feeling.
    • “I was just joking” when he says a clearly hurtful remark.
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10

He holds grudges on a regular basis.

  1. An unhappy Virgo man isn’t afraid to dig into past arguments. An unhappy Virgo man isn’t afraid to dig into past arguments. He might rake you through the coals over an argument from eons ago, or randomly mention something hurtful that you did a long time ago. Long, pointless grudges are a big red flag that he’s pulling away from you.[12]
    • Pay close attention to the intent of his words. Is he digging up the past solely to drag your name through the mud, or is he genuinely hurt about something?
11

He loves to pick fights.

  1. Occasional fights are inevitable in any relationship, but they shouldn’t be a constant. Occasional fights are inevitable in any relationship, but they shouldn’t be a constant. Virgo men usually love to keep things peaceful and harmonious, so it’s a very bad sign if he’s always butting heads with you. An unhappy Virgo won’t even try to keep the peace, and may act like a completely different person. He might:[13]
    • Bicker about something minor, like a household chore
    • Blame you about something
    • Treat you like the bad guy
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12

He has major doubts about your relationship.

  1. It’s normal to have doubts in a relationship, but they shouldn’t dominate every conversation. It’s normal to have doubts in a relationship, but they shouldn’t dominate every conversation. If he’s constantly pointing out how little you have in common, he might be trying to send you a message. He might say:
    • “I can’t believe we’ve been together for 2 years. I don’t think we like any of the same things.”
    • “I have such a hard time hanging out with you sometimes. You really like going out, and I’d rather spend a night in.”

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What's the dark side of virgo men in a relationship? Stina Garbis Stina Garbis Psychic Astrologer Virgos pride themselves on being the critic and being right, but if they push you away after a fight and you disappear for a week, they often start to regret their actions. They like to be right, but they just want to tell you and encourage you to change—they don’t actually want you to leave. Read More wikiHow Editorial Team wikiHow Editorial Team In love and relationships, Virgos can be critical of their partners. This doesn’t come from an unkind place—they're perfectionists who can be critical of themselves, too—but can be hurtful. Virgo men tend to be practical and reserved, and may struggle to open up and be vulnerable emotionally. Read More See all 2 Replies and Read Discussion

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  1. ↑ https://www.vice.com/en/article/signs-someone-is-over-you-zodiac-horoscope/
  2. ↑ https://www.vice.com/en/article/signs-someone-is-over-you-zodiac-horoscope/
  3. ↑ Jessica Lanyadoo. Astrologer & Psychic Medium. Expert Interview
  4. ↑ https://popularastrology.com/signs-virgo-man-not-into-you
  5. ↑ https://www.zodiacguides.com/how-to-know-when-a-virgo-man-is-done-with-you/
  6. ↑ https://popularastrology.com/signs-virgo-man-not-into-you
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Stina Garbis Reviewed by: Stina Garbis Psychic Astrologer This article was reviewed by Stina Garbis and by wikiHow staff writer, Janice Tieperman. Reverend Stina Garbis is a Psychic Astrologer and the Owner of Psychic Stina. With over 30 years of experience, she specializes in providing personal and professional advice through astrology and tarot card readings. Reverend Stina has experience working with high-profile celebrities, sports figures, politicians, and CEOs. She has been featured in many publications, including Bustle, Vice, The New York Post, and Readers’ Digest and she also has a 200k+ following on TikTok. Stina holds an Ordained Minister License from The International Metaphysical Ministry University Seminary. This article has been viewed 148,989 times. 10 votes - 100% Co-authors: 5 Updated: January 27, 2026 Views: 148,989 Categories: Astrology Relationships In other languagesJapanese
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