20 Ways To Take Revenge On A Narcissist - Abuse Warrior

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* I generally write using the pronouns he/him when referring to narcissists, but females are just as likely to be narcissists or exhibit narcissistic traits. So please don't think just because article uses the word him or he that it could not be a woman in that same role.

There’s an old cliche that “the best revenge is living well.” This is only true when the person you want revenge on is a narcissist. Because they truly cannot stand to know you’re living well without them in your life.

So what are so ways to take revenge on a narcissist that work?

You might say, “What a bloody lame answer! It wouldn’t bug me if someone I fell out with was living well without me!!” And that’s because you’re not a narcissist.

To get “revenge” on them, you need to think as they do. They are insecure, petty, self-loathing people who project their insecurities onto others. “Living well” is not something they want to see you do.

And to live well without a narcissist in your life, you will need to establish the No Contact Rule with them — and stick to it. Live your life as though they never existed, refraining from any contact.

You don’t get to see the narcissist twitch and squirm, but if you were ever a valued source of supply to them, believe me, they are twitching and squirming.

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The best ways to take revenge on a Narcissist

1. Do not take any revenge at all.

Let them be who they are because taking revenge on an immature kid makes you as narcissistic as they are.

2. Walk Away

Walk away from them completely, going full No Contact (cutting everything off including their number and social media networks).

3. Do not allow them to contact you on anything.

They know your weaknesses no matter what they will manipulate you again and drag you to the game. If they manipulated you from day one they will again do it with no problem.

4. Ignore Them.

If you see them on the road, they are Lord Voldemort to you, they don’t exist in your dictionary. They are dead people thin air to you. Ignore them completely and walk away.

5. If you allowed the option for them to Hoover and they already did, ignore them completely.

That will drive them mad. When you ignore them, you don’t do it to get them mad, but you do it for your good and safety.

6. Don’t Beg

Do not beg or plead for them to take you back. Apologize to yourself profusely for letting them abuse you, you deserve self-love, self-respect, and self-value.

7. Be Mature

Be the mature one to learn to walk away from toxic people in your life, no matter how hard it is you should learn that.

8. Don’t try to save them.

You are no one to save them, neither help them nor change them, we have professionals to do that thing, and you ain’t one.

9. Realize what love means.

You say I love him, you should always remember that mature love is built on respect, value, care, and love, not codependency and rescuing people so they can love you. You ain’t mother Mary neither an Angel from God to rescue someone, if it means you will ruin your whole life and be enslaved to them.

10. Make peace with yourself.

Make peace with your inner self and mind. Convince yourself that you got lied to and manipulated. The person you knew never existed it was just an illusion presented by them.

11. Don’t chase revenge.

Fight with your inner self no matter how bad you try to take revenge stop yourself because the revenge will only hurt you not them. They possess no Empathy nor do they care. The revenge will turn you into a terrible person someone that you are not basically to them, leave them be because they are immature kids, you can’t take revenge from a kid that slapped you, because that makes you as narcissistic as them and as immature as them.

12. Do not trust them

They are Con Artists even if they promise they will change because they won’t. A person who lied to you once and manipulated you will always do it no matter what.

13. Spend time with friends

Go outside spend time with your friends, and enjoy your life that’s the best revenge you can give them, basically not caring at all, showing them that you can continue without them.

Show them that you took your life back, you got successful with your life, you are an independent person standing on your legs, and your whole self-worth ain’t dependent on them, life is too beautiful and short to feed yourself with hate or revenge for someone (no matter what they did, because it shows immaturity).

14. Remember they are not your friend

Convince yourself that they ain’t your friends, neither an enemy to deserve revenge from you, you don’t give revenge to someone that has no value in your eyes, you don’t take revenge from thin air, because they ain’t worthy of your energy neither of your valuable time.

15. Love Yourself

Learn to love yourself again, take your esteem back, and include yourself with positive people who make you laugh and spend the best time of your life with them.

16. Don’t repeat your mistakes

Always follow up this code in life, if someone breaks your trust once they will always do it, and you leave without arguing or confronting them when they do. Always follow up this quote-

’’Fool me once shame on you,fool me twice shame on me.”

17. Overcome withdrawal

You will go through hard withdrawal symptoms, you will burn your brain and body seeking normal revenge, do not give up, do not give yourself up, take it as if you are in rehab, because if you do they will win if you learn to walk away ’’They might have won a few battles, but you will win the war in the end’’

18. Count your blessings

Stay blessed because good things are waiting for you in the future. God gives us the people that we need not the ones that we want if he removed this toxic person from your life he knew why he did it. What comes from God always remember that is most welcomed, if you go against his will you will hurt yourself and no one else.

19. Don’t be a doormat

Learn never to share your Empathy with the wrong people. Being nice to someone that deserves it is cool, but that does not mean that you should be someone’s doormat, give people what they deserve if they don’t deserve your words you feed them your silence.

20. Recognize that you escaped hell.

Once you disconnect from this person once and for all you take everything back, his/her hoover will be not welcomed at all, you will learn that you did yourself a big favor and that was the best decision you took for your life, you will learn that God blessed you with the most difficult test in your life and you passed it without a problem, you will come back in here, being surprised laughing your ass off.

Telling yourself that I can’t believe I wasted so much energy and time to take revenge on this worthless person, convince yourself that the best revenge you will take from them is standing up for yourself and moving forward with your life. They don’t deserve anything, including your revenge.