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How to Be Big and Still Get a Girl: What You Need to Know Download Article Find love no matter your size with our helpful tips Co-authored by John Keegan
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This article was co-authored by John Keegan. John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health. This article has been viewed 169,720 times.
This article covers in detail how to get girls if you consider yourself big. Anyone can get a girl, the key is to play to your strengths and meet lots of girls until you find one that likes you as much as you like her. Get started at step number one below.
Things You Should Know
Show off your personality by having a great sense of humor and treating others with kindness. Who doesn’t love a thoughtful, funny guy?
Dress to impress by wearing well-fitting clothing that makes you feel confident. When you look good, you feel good.
Put yourself out there by going to coffee shops, going out with friends, or joining a club. When you open yourself up to love, love will find you.
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Method 1 Method 1 of 3:
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1 Find your self-confidence. Most people are attracted to someone who has healthy self-esteem. If you believe you're the shiz, you'll act like you're the shiz and girls will believe you're the shiz and want to find out why you're the shiz.[1]XResearch source
Don't try to become confident by getting the attention of girls. Not only will this never truly give you faith in yourself as a person, you're setting yourself up for a fall. Even the most handsome guy will go through dry patches but, if their confidence is founded on something stronger than their attractiveness, the rest of their life won't suffer and they'll come out the other side fighting.
2 Believe that you are physically attractive. Yes, you don't have a six pack but you might have great skin, hair, eyes or height. Never underestimate the power of such details. [2]XResearch source
Remember that you may not think of yourself as the most handsome man to walk the earth but there will always be several guys who would give their right arm to look like you. They are not always the people you would expect either.
You're pretty unlikely to be the heaviest man around. Guess what? There have been guys and girls much bigger than you that have found flings and true love.
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3 Manage your expectations. You have to cut potential girls a little leeway. Go for someone you find attractive, definitely, but accept that they might not always be a 10. Look past the physical and into the character and soul of the girl you're trying to get. Not only will your insistence on finding someone beautiful inside and out make you more attractive to girls, it will make sure that you find someone truly special and worthy of you.
This goes for every guy and girl you'll ever meet and everyone realises it, sooner or later. It has nothing to do with your size or level of attractiveness.
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1 Dress to impress. Wear clothes that highlight your best features and that make you feel attractive and suave.[3]XResearch source
2 Show off your personality. Whatever the size of your clothes, the key to having someone fall head over heels in love with you is a great personality.[4]X Expert Source John KeeganDating CoachExpert Interview
Be funny. Humor is a huge part of love and a trait many girls find very attractive.
Self-deprecating humor is great but make sure not to go overboard and risk losing her respect. If all she ever hears about you is how clumsy/foolish/unintelligent/greedy/awkward you are, she'll believe it.
Be kind and sensitive towards others. Swoon!
3 Have healthy looking skin, face and body. All healthy skin tones are fine. If you're very pale, you might like to get a little bit of a tan. If your skin tone is a bit uneven, you might try a new skin care regimen to improve it. Removing palid, blotchy or rough skin it will fatty pounds off you and highlight your muscles - the very reason so many partygoers and bodybuilders maintain a tan/healthy skin.[5]X Expert Source John KeeganDating CoachExpert Interview
4 Manage your weight. If you're reading this article, you clearly feel that your size is holding you back. Your doctor may advise you to change your diet and/or take some light exercise. However, only attempt to lose weight under the guidance of a healthcare professional. Feeling in control of your weight will give you a big confidence boost.[6]X Expert Source John KeeganDating CoachExpert Interview
Girls will be attracted to someone who has the "guts" to tackle such an obstacle. It develops and shows a strength of character that will stand you in good stead in many parts of life, not least the romantic side of it.
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1 Maintain good oral hygiene and breath. Keep some mints with you.[7]XResearch source
2 Try not to get on top of anyone, it creeps people out.
3 Make sure your girl knows you care about her.[8]XResearch source
4 Kiss with sensitivity. If and when you kiss, don't smush your face into hers. It's gross.
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Question I lack confidence and social skills; what's the best way to improve? John Keegan Dating Coach John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health. John Keegan Dating Coach Expert Answer Embarking on the journey of enhancing your social skills involves immersing yourself in various social settings and initiating interactions based on shared interests. For instance, consider cultivating your sociability at a bookstore where you can engage fellow enthusiasts in conversations centered around mutual passions. Likewise, explore art galleries, which are abundant in cities, and initiate discussions with those around you regarding the exhibited art pieces, allowing yourself to practice and refine your social interactions. Extend your efforts to familiar places like a local coffee shop, where genuine conversations with baristas and patrons can become opportunities for honing your social finesse. Embrace the simplicity of discussing preferences, such as your daily order of Jasmine green tea, and consider asking for recommendations to spark organic conversations. Whether in mundane scenarios like a supermarket or casual strolls down the street, make a conscious effort to greet people and strike up casual conversations without any specific expectations. The key is to practice transitioning from a risk-averse social demeanor to one that actively embraces social risks. Focus on the process rather than the outcomes, eliminating the pressure of predefined agendas. Offer compliments spontaneously, like admiring someone's fashion sense, as a simple yet effective way to initiate conversations. Dedicate yourself to this deliberate practice at least a few times a day for a month, gradually honing your social skills and making genuine connections in the process. Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.Thank you for your feedback. If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow Yes No Not Helpful 6 Helpful 2
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The girl is most likely just as nervous as you are! So, try to calm yourself down, the worst that can happen is her saying no, so what have you got to lose? Thanks Helpful 1 Not Helpful 2
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It's not only girls who are sometimes encouraged to go further than they really want to. Stand firm to what you believe and don't feel afraid to say "no". Remember that this won't be the only girl you'll ever have a chance with. You are no more or less of a man if you have not had this or that sexual experience. The only difference between a man and a boy in such circumstances is that a man can stand up for what he believes in and won't be lead by the nose. Thanks Helpful 2 Not Helpful 0
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1 Find your self-confidence. Most people are attracted to someone who has healthy self-esteem. If you believe you're the shiz, you'll act like you're the shiz and girls will believe you're the shiz and want to find out why you're the shiz.[1] 
2 Believe that you are physically attractive. Yes, you don't have a six pack but you might have great skin, hair, eyes or height. Never underestimate the power of such details. [2] 
3 Manage your expectations. You have to cut potential girls a little leeway. Go for someone you find attractive, definitely, but accept that they might not always be a 10. Look past the physical and into the character and soul of the girl you're trying to get. Not only will your insistence on finding someone beautiful inside and out make you more attractive to girls, it will make sure that you find someone truly special and worthy of you. 
1 Dress to impress. Wear clothes that highlight your best features and that make you feel attractive and suave.[3] 
2 Show off your personality. Whatever the size of your clothes, the key to having someone fall head over heels in love with you is a great personality.[4] 
3 Have healthy looking skin, face and body. All healthy skin tones are fine. If you're very pale, you might like to get a little bit of a tan. If your skin tone is a bit uneven, you might try a new skin care regimen to improve it. Removing palid, blotchy or rough skin it will fatty pounds off you and highlight your muscles - the very reason so many partygoers and bodybuilders maintain a tan/healthy skin.[5] 
4 Manage your weight. If you're reading this article, you clearly feel that your size is holding you back. Your doctor may advise you to change your diet and/or take some light exercise. However, only attempt to lose weight under the guidance of a healthcare professional. Feeling in control of your weight will give you a big confidence boost.[6] 
1 Maintain good oral hygiene and breath. Keep some mints with you.[7] 
2 Try not to get on top of anyone, it creeps people out. 
3 Make sure your girl knows you care about her.[8] 
4 Kiss with sensitivity. If and when you kiss, don't smush your face into hers. It's gross. Advertisement 
John Keegan Dating Coach John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.