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How to Start a Conversation on Bumble Download ArticleExplore this Article IN THIS ARTICLE 1 Who can send the first message on Bumble? 2 How do I match with someone? 3 I have First Move privileges, so how do I send a message? 4 What could I say to spark a conversation? 5 How can I make a good first impression? How Do You Start A Conversation On A Dating App? Conversation Starters + Show 4 more... - Show less... Other Sections Expert Q&A Video Related Articles References Article Summary Co-authored by Shana Tibi and Nicole Levine, MFA
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This article was co-authored by Shana Tibi and by wikiHow staff writer, Nicole Levine, MFA. Shana Tibi is a Certified Professional Matchmaker, Date and Relationship Coach, and the Founder of Curated Connections, a matchmaking service for single professionals. Shana specializes in understanding core values and personal preferences to curate dates. She holds a BA in Peace Studies and Conflict Resolution from Prescott College and an MSW in Social Work from California State University, Hayward. She is an active member of the Global Love Institute where she earned her matchmaking certifications. This article has been viewed 61,707 times.
So, you've matched with someone on Bumble—congratulations! But now what? Well, if you have First Move privileges, you'll need to send a message to the other person within 24 hours, or else the match will expire. This wikiHow teaches you how to reach out to your Bumble match, and what you can say to spark a great first conversation.
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Who can send the first message on Bumble?
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You must have First Move privileges to send the first message. In general, only women can send the first message on Bumble. But it's a little more complicated than that, depending on what you're doing on Bumble:
Dating mode: Only women and non-binary people can start a conversation with someone of a different gender. If two men (or two people of the same gender) match, either can start the conversation.[1]XResearch source
BFF mode: BFF mode only displays people of the same gender, so either can write to the other first.
Bizz mode: The gender rules are the same as in Dating Mode, but instead of only having 24 hours to write to a match, you'll have 7 days to start the conversation.
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How do I match with someone?
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Swipe right on the person you want to talk to. If they swipe right on you back, you'll be able to chat with them! You have 24 hours from the time you match with someone to start a conversation with them (unless you're in Bizz mode—then you'll have 7 days). At that point, the other person has 24 hours to respond. Once they've responded, you'll have an official match, and the time limit will no longer apply.[2]XResearch source
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I have First Move privileges, so how do I send a message?
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1 Tap the chat bubble icon to view your matches. Everyone you've matched with appears at the top of the Conversations page. Their photos will be surrounded by yellow circles.
If you see a green circle around the person's profile photo, that person is a "Beeline" match, which means they've swiped right on you, but you haven't swiped right on them. Beeline matches are only available to Premium subscribers.
2 Tap the person you want to talk to. If you're within the 24-hour timeframe (or within 7 days, if using Bizz mode), you can now send your first message!
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What could I say to spark a conversation?
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1 Start with an open-ended question. It's hard to come up with things to talk about if you don't know anything about a person. That's why questions are great conversation starters. What was it about their profile that made you want to swipe right? Do you have anything in common? If so, think of a question you could ask them about that topic. When you ask a question, you're likely to get an answer.
If you both like hiking and/or the outdoors, ask about their favorite local hikes.
Did they mention any bands or TV shows you both like? Ask what they thought about the latest album or episode, or what they'd recommend you listen to or watch.
Are they a student? If they haven't mentioned what they study in their bio, ask them! You could also ask what they think of their program and what types of classes are involved.
If you're at a loss, you already have one thing in common with the person—you're both on Bumble! Ask them what's the worst line they've heard, whether they've met any weirdos, or what they're looking for.
Try to avoid yes-or-no or one-word answer questions, as they can be conversation stoppers.
2 Comment on a photo. Even after you ask a question, you could run out of things to talk about. One thing that could keep the conversation going is to bring up things in their photos.
Pets: One thing is for sure—everyone loves talking about their pets. Have they shared photos of their dog or cat? Tell them how cute their pet is, or how much you love that type of animal. Ask how old their dog is, or how many pets they have.
Books: Do you see a book you've both read in one of their photos? Tell them you've read it and ask what they thought.
If they've shared a photo of a place you've been or recognize, ask what they thought about it, or tell a funny story about a time you've been there.
3 Don't just say "Hey" or "Hi." Your first message should be interactive and show that you're interested in initiating a conversation. Starting with a one-word greeting puts all of the pressure on the other person, and they'll think you're not making a real effort to connect .
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1 Appeal to the person's sense of humor. If the person's profile shows that they have an oddball or sarcastic sense of humor, a funny GIF or cheesy pickup line could make them laugh (in a good way).
Self-deprecating humor can be a great ice breaker, but don’t be too self-deprecating—you don't want them to doubt your self-confidence.
Avoid joking about controversial or political subjects until you've built a rapport.
2 Be authentic. Before you start typing your conversation starter, remember that authenticity is what matters most. Don't stress to much about saying the right thing—you want this person to like you for you.
3 Show genuine interest. People on Bumble could be chatting with many matches at once. If you want this person to keep talking to you, make sure they know you are interested in getting to know them in particular.
Don't be afraid to compliment. Everyone loves a compliment, but too many (or too personal) compliments can make people uncomfortable. If you think a person is attractive, tell them![3]X Expert Source Shana TibiCertified Professional MatchmakerExpert Interview
If you're enjoying the conversation, tell them you'd love to meet in person, or at least have a phone or FaceTime conversation to see if there's a spark.
Don't just talk about yourself. Continue asking questions and you'll keep getting answers!
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Question What can I say instead of hey? Shana Tibi Certified Professional Matchmaker Shana Tibi is a Certified Professional Matchmaker, Date and Relationship Coach, and the Founder of Curated Connections, a matchmaking service for single professionals. Shana specializes in understanding core values and personal preferences to curate dates. She holds a BA in Peace Studies and Conflict Resolution from Prescott College and an MSW in Social Work from California State University, Hayward. She is an active member of the Global Love Institute where she earned her matchmaking certifications. Shana Tibi Certified Professional Matchmaker Expert Answer Mention something specific to the other person! Their profession, their alma mater, an activity they like, or a core value are all fair game. Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.Thank you for your feedback. If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow Yes No Not Helpful 1 Helpful 0
Question Can I just say hey on Bumble? Shana Tibi Certified Professional Matchmaker Shana Tibi is a Certified Professional Matchmaker, Date and Relationship Coach, and the Founder of Curated Connections, a matchmaking service for single professionals. Shana specializes in understanding core values and personal preferences to curate dates. She holds a BA in Peace Studies and Conflict Resolution from Prescott College and an MSW in Social Work from California State University, Hayward. She is an active member of the Global Love Institute where she earned her matchmaking certifications. Shana Tibi Certified Professional Matchmaker Expert Answer That's not a great idea—try to keep it light-hearted and fun instead! Sending "hey" just feels like a copied and pasted message. Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.Thank you for your feedback. If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow Yes No Not Helpful 0 Helpful 2
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Co-authored by: Shana Tibi Certified Professional Matchmaker This article was co-authored by Shana Tibi and by wikiHow staff writer, Nicole Levine, MFA. Shana Tibi is a Certified Professional Matchmaker, Date and Relationship Coach, and the Founder of Curated Connections, a matchmaking service for single professionals. Shana specializes in understanding core values and personal preferences to curate dates. She holds a BA in Peace Studies and Conflict Resolution from Prescott College and an MSW in Social Work from California State University, Hayward. She is an active member of the Global Love Institute where she earned her matchmaking certifications. This article has been viewed 61,707 times. How helpful is this? Co-authors: 5Updated: September 28, 2024 Views: 61,707 Categories: Social MediaArticle SummaryX
1. Swipe right on someone. If the swipe right on you, you'll have a match. 2. As long as you are a woman or non-binary person, you can send the first message to someone of another gender. 3. If two people of the same gender match, either can start the conversation. 4. Ask a question based on something in their bio. 5. Appeal to their sense of humor. Did this summary help you?YesNo
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You must have First Move privileges to send the first message. In general, only women can send the first message on Bumble. But it's a little more complicated than that, depending on what you're doing on Bumble: 
Swipe right on the person you want to talk to. If they swipe right on you back, you'll be able to chat with them! You have 24 hours from the time you match with someone to start a conversation with them (unless you're in Bizz mode—then you'll have 7 days). At that point, the other person has 24 hours to respond. Once they've responded, you'll have an official match, and the time limit will no longer apply.[2] 
1 Tap the chat bubble icon to view your matches. Everyone you've matched with appears at the top of the Conversations page. Their photos will be surrounded by yellow circles. 
2 Tap the person you want to talk to. If you're within the 24-hour timeframe (or within 7 days, if using Bizz mode), you can now send your first message! Advertisement 
1 Start with an open-ended question. It's hard to come up with things to talk about if you don't know anything about a person. That's why questions are great conversation starters. What was it about their profile that made you want to swipe right? Do you have anything in common? If so, think of a question you could ask them about that topic. When you ask a question, you're likely to get an answer. 
2 Comment on a photo. Even after you ask a question, you could run out of things to talk about. One thing that could keep the conversation going is to bring up things in their photos. 
3 Don't just say "Hey" or "Hi." Your first message should be interactive and show that you're interested in initiating a conversation. Starting with a one-word greeting puts all of the pressure on the other person, and they'll think you're not making a real effort to connect . Advertisement 
1 Appeal to the person's sense of humor. If the person's profile shows that they have an oddball or sarcastic sense of humor, a funny GIF or cheesy pickup line could make them laugh (in a good way). 
2 Be authentic. Before you start typing your conversation starter, remember that authenticity is what matters most. Don't stress to much about saying the right thing—you want this person to like you for you. 
3 Show genuine interest. People on Bumble could be chatting with many matches at once. If you want this person to keep talking to you, make sure they know you are interested in getting to know them in particular. 
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Shana Tibi Certified Professional Matchmaker Shana Tibi is a Certified Professional Matchmaker, Date and Relationship Coach, and the Founder of Curated Connections, a matchmaking service for single professionals. Shana specializes in understanding core values and personal preferences to curate dates. She holds a BA in Peace Studies and Conflict Resolution from Prescott College and an MSW in Social Work from California State University, Hayward. She is an active member of the Global Love Institute where she earned her matchmaking certifications.