8 Reasons Why I Love My Boyfriend | BetterHelp

Key takeaways

• If you find it hard to articulate exactly why you love your boyfriend, you might explore some common reasons people love their partners.
• How they treat other people, how they look at life, and how they make you feel are a few common reasons.
• A licensed therapist or counselor can offer emotional support and guidance as you navigate relationships.

It can be hard to pinpoint exactly what you love about your partner or express the characteristics you most admire. You might love how they treat others, their perspective on life, how they make you feel, or how much they respect you. Some might feel their partner encourages them to be a better person, while others may consider their partner their very best friend, someone who makes their fears melt and who never fails to make them feel confident. 

Seven reasons to love your boyfriend

If you’re wondering what it is about your partner that makes you unable to imagine life without them, consider the following seven reasons why you might love your partner. If you don’t relate to the items on this list, you might consider creating your own. In some cases, it can be difficult to put feelings into words. Ask your partner what they love about you, and you might find that you feel the same. If you’re not sure how you feel about your relationship or are struggling with anxiety about it, connecting with an online therapist can be a helpful next step.

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How they treat other people

We may judge people by how they treat others, whether it's our friends, our families, or even strangers. We often want to ensure we're with someone who treats the people in their life well. That can mean someone who is kind to others and who shows respect.

Often, a person’s empathy and compassion can be a predictor of how they might treat you in the future. It can also be one sign that a person is a healthy, well-rounded individual.

You might love your partner because they:

• Love the people in their life
• Try hard to be there for others
• Have important, close relationships

How they look at life

You might want a partner who looks into the future with an optimistic perspective. After all, you might wish to improve yourself throughout life, and someone positive and hopeful about the future may be able to help you view negative things differently. Studies show that optimism is one of the key factors in marital satisfaction, as well.

A partner with a positive outlook often looks on the bright side, even when challenges arise. This outlook can help you remain positive and make life a more fun, joyful experience overall. If your partner has a positive outlook, you may love them for it.

If you’re struggling with your outlook or are having relationship concerns, a qualified therapist can offer guidance.

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How unique they are

Everyone can be unique in their own way, and your partner likely has their own unique characteristics that make them stand out from everyone else. You might admire how much they walk to the beat of their own drum or how they’re passionate about their hobbies and interests.

What sets your partner apart and makes you feel like they’re the only person in the world could be things like:

•  Their amazing cooking skills
• The way their eyes smile
• The faces they make when they laugh

Uniqueness can be beautiful, and it might be one of the things you love the most about your partner.

How they communicate with you

Although the first thing that comes to mind when you think about your partner might be their beautiful smile or how completely drop-dead gorgeous they are, how they communicate with you may be just as important. Even if your partner is the cutest person in the world, effective, healthy communication that expresses love and can be used to talk through conflict can be invaluable to a relationship. Studies show that relationships with both commitment and communication may last longer than those with only commitment and a lack of communication.

How they make you feel

Many of us want to feel loved and cared for. Your significant other is an important person to you, so it’s normal to want to feel important to your significant other. When we feel valued and loved, we are often empowered to become better versions of ourselves.

You may also find that your significant other helps you to feel more confident. If your partner makes you feel this way, you might love that about them.

How they take care of you

It can feel amazing to have a partner who knows and understands your needs and does what they can to satisfy them. Maybe your partner takes over mowing the lawn because they know it’s your least favorite chore, or perhaps they know all your guilty pleasure foods and the TV shows you like to watch to destress after a long day of work. 

That said, your partner doesn’t necessarily have to spend hours cooking the perfect dinner or planning the perfect outing, and these acts of service can vary from couple to couple.

For example, your partner might:

• Give you a massage when you’re stressed
• Make sure you get plenty of alone time if you need to recharge
• Know what makes you laugh, saving funny memes to show you after a hard day
• Speak to you in a gentle and calming voice when you're upset

Being taken care of in this way can be something you adore in a partner. If your love language is acts of service, you may love how your partner cares for you in small ways.

How they respect you

Respect might be one of the most important reasons to love your boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner. In general, you may want someone who will treat you well and defend you if someone else hurts you.

If you love your partner for their respect, they may actively listen to your thoughts and opinions and value you as a person, which could be a commendable trait worth admiring in a partner.

Online therapy can help you foster a healthy relationship

Although love can make it hard to imagine living without your partner, all relationships may experience challenges and trying times. That said, there are tools that may improve your relationship health and make your relationship work in the long run. One of these tools is online therapy, which could effectively allow you to talk through conflict and grow closer with your partner. Online therapy can provide a safe and structured environment to discuss your thoughts and feelings with a licensed therapist to mediate and guide the conversation.

The efficacy of online therapy

You're not alone if you’re nervous about trying online therapy rather than traditional therapy. The couples in one study initially felt doubtful about online treatment. However, they eventually discovered that they found online therapy to be positive and beneficial, and they were able to form a solid therapeutic alliance with their therapists.

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Takeaway

If your partner asks you why you love them, you might be at a loss for words, even if you know there are many reasons why you feel so strongly for them. Whether you love your partner’s amazing sense of humor, their innate ability to walk tall no matter what comes their way, the way they make you feel peaceful in a noisy crowd, or simply the way their voice sounds, this list may help put some words to the feelings you feel for your partner daily.

In some cases, you may struggle with your relationship or have conflicts with your partner. Many couples can experience relationship difficulties at times, and online counseling may be a way to grow and work through conflicts. Consider taking the first step by reaching out for help.