Bottle Refusal - What To Do When Your Baby Won't Take A Bottle

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First published 1/13/2019; updated 5/5/2023 & 2/24/2024

This post is part of a 3 part series on bottle-feeding breastfed babies.  I highly suggest you read part 1 on choosing a bottle for your breastfed baby and part 2 on how to give a breastfed baby a bottle before tackling part 3!

Ah, bottle refusal.  Or as it’s also known- “my baby won’t take a bottle and I am losing my ever-loving mind.”

You’d think that once you got over the hurdle of those early fiddly tender confusing frustrating breastfeeding days, a bottle would be a piece of cake… but if you’re reading this blog post there’s a good chance your baby refuses to take a bottle.

Try not to panic- hopefully you’ve got at least a week or two until whatever event or life change is coming up that the bottles are required for.  This often FEELS like an emergency, but you have time!  

If someone tells you to just send baby to the sitter with a bottle and “if he/she is hungry enough, he/she will figure it out” or “daycare workers are really good at bottles so don’t bother trying at home first”, give that person your sternest angry eyes and walk away from them. 

Bottle refusal can be incredibly stressful. It's going to be okay. You’re not going to let your baby starve.

(Now, if your baby really does need to eat from something other than you RIGHT NOW and won’t take a bottle, I suggest you put some pumped milk in a medicine cup or shot glass as shown in this video.  It can be a bit messy, but baby will be fed and give you a back-up plan until you get this whole bottle SNAFU figured out.  Sometimes a sippy cup with a flexible straw works, too.)

The goal here is to make slow and steady progress while keeping bottle feeding HAPPY and CALM. Screaming, crying babies aren’t going to eat no matter how many brands of bottles you try. 

I’m here to help!

We'll start with a dry, clean, empty bottle.

Pictured above are the Lansinoh Breastmilk Feeding Bottle, the Dr Browns Original/Natural Flow bottle, and the Evenflo Balance + Standard Neck bottle.

1 Let your baby play with/suck/chew on the bottle nipple with NO food in it first. That’s right, just the nipple and the bottle collar. If your baby is old enough to put things in their mouth, hand them the nipple and let them explore it.  If baby isn’t quite that old then try gently introducing the nipple to their mouth like a pacifier.  We want this to be non-threatening and low pressure.

2 Once your baby is comfortable with the nipple being in their mouth you’ll want to try dipping the nipple in expressed milk and letting them suck on it; again, this is WITHOUT it being full of milk. We’re just making friends with the nipple, not eating.

3 If your baby won’t suck on the nipple no matter what you do, get them to play tug-of-war while sucking your clean finger or a pacifier (if they’ll take one). They will need to cup your finger with their tongue, extend it over their gums, and keep it there while they suck.  When they’re sucking you’ll tug your finger/pacifier a bit to encourage them to suck it back in. 

4 If you can’t get your baby to suck on a bottle nipple, pacifier, OR your finger and you’ve tried this over and over for at least 3 days, you need one-on-one help with a skilled IBCLC to figure out what’s going on.  There’s always a reason babies aren’t sucking, and the reason is never “because he wants to make my life harder.”

5 Once you’ve got baby used to sucking on the bottle nipple, hand them an empty bottle to play with/get used to. Again, keep it low pressure and fun. 

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Once they’re convinced that the bottle isn’t going to do them grave bodily harm you can fill it with about one ounce of pumped milk. Warm? Cold? Doesn’t really matter. Try one, try both. Most babies don’t have any problem drinking cold breastmilk straight from the fridge.

You’ll want to start with baby sitting up or semi reclined-  make sure baby’s arms and legs are supported and they’re not flailing or tipsy.

You’ll want to gently lay the bottle nipple vertically against baby’s lips so they open their mouth.  You then gently move the bottle nipple into their mouth, angling UP towards the roof of their mouth, allowing them to suck it in. 

No shoving, no forcing, no screwing the bottle into baby's mouth. Keep your tone light and fun. Don't let them see you sweat!

Once you get your baby to allow the bottle nipple into their mouth, you may need to trick them into sucking on it and drinking.  There are lots of ways of doing this.  

I’m going to give you a boatload of ideas- but it’s very important that you DO NOT TRY THEM ALL AT ONCE.  Try a few of these in one session if your baby is calm and happy.  If your baby gets upset, STOP!

  • Hold baby facing out and walk around
  • Wear baby in a baby carrier or sling (and move!)
  • Go outside and show baby distracting, colorful things
  • Bounce on a yoga ball or... well probably not a trampoline, but, you know, whatever way you bounce your baby, do that
  • Distract baby with a shiny loud obnoxious light-up moving toy
  • Call in a pet or an older sibling and bribe them into being extra fascinating
  • Turn on the TV or iPad (I won't tell anyone)
  • White noise is your BFF; try it (and then try it even louder)
  • Hold baby as if they are nursing (snuggle them up close to you, belly to belly)
  • Offer the bottle when baby is juuuust waking up and hungry but still sleepy, like a dream feed
  • Try laying baby on their side (in your lap, or in the colic hold in your arms)

If you DO get baby to suck and swallow, even once or twice, be super sweet and happy about it in a calming way.  They have to learn that this is okay and not threatening and that sometimes even when we’re loudly celebrating, it confuses them.  

Keep it happy and soothing!  And if they only do one or two sucks and swallows and then stop, don’t force it. Count it as a win and try again later.

Because here’s the thing I’ve found in every single bottle refusal (and also, breast refusal) consult I’ve done- if baby isn’t taking the bottle (or breast) THERE IS A REASON.  Babies don’t refuse bottles just to be jerks and show us who’s boss. 

If you’ve tried all these things- the suggested bottles and nipples, the distraction, the slow and steady, and NOTHING is working, you need to call in an expert.

You’ve got a couple of choices here! 

  1. You can book a virtual or office visit for bottle refusal help with me, and we can work together, or
  2. Find a local IBCLC who specializes in bottle refusals- you can ask them if they have completed my course, Guiding Bottle Breakthroughs, OR ask them what their approach is with bottle refusing babies. If they tell you that “the mom” can’t give the bottle, you know that perhaps they don’t have specific training in bottle refusal.

Parents, please note: This post used to contain a list of private practice IBCLCs who told me that they were skilled in helping babies with bottle refusal. It was provided merely as a courtesy for my readers. I removed this list as of 2/2024 and I will be replacing it with a list of lactation professionals who have completed my bottle refusal course so that I am referring to people who I am confident are trained and equipped to help families with bottle refusal.

LACTATION PROFESSIONALS, please note:

More info on Guiding Bottle Breakthroughs:

  • 11 CERPs (6 L-CERPs, 4 R-CERPs, 1 E-CERP)
  • This is a self-paced course that you complete in your own time
  • Hours of video instruction, professional & client handouts
  • Charting form & care plan included
  • Video resource library
  • Feedback from yours truly 💁‍♀️ on your final assignment
  • Exclusive footage of actual bottle refusal consultations

If you are a lactation professional with a current lactation certification I would love to have you join us in the course! Feel free to contact me with any questions.

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22 thoughts on “What to Do When Your Breastfed Baby Won’t Take a Bottle (Introducing a Bottle, Part 3)”

  1. Thank you, Rachel, for this incredibly detailed guide on bottle refusal! Your step-by-step approach and emphasis on keeping the experience calm and positive are invaluable. As a new parent facing this challenge, I appreciate your reassurance that it’s a common struggle. Your tips not only offer practical solutions but also provide much-needed support during a stressful time.

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  2. For other worried parents, just want to add that this worked for our 11 week old who was refusing a bottle and pacifier. She took a bottle a couple times around 6 weeks, then we slacked off and when we tried again around 10 weeks she refused and would just chew on the bottle nipple or cry. Three days of this protocol, starting with my finger, then a pacifier, then a lansinoh bottle, and she finally took a bottle. What a relief!

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    1. Did you ever crack it? We’re having the exact same problem!

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  3. I wondered if you would recommend giving breast direct straight after refusal or if you would encourage any delay? I of course would feed baby if seeming extremely hungry

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    1. I have the same question!

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  4. Bottle refusal can indeed be a stressful experience for parents, and it’s reassuring to know that there are methods to work through it. Your step-by-step guide is incredibly helpful.

    Taking a gradual and non-threatening approach is key, and I appreciate your emphasis on keeping bottle feeding a calm and happy experience. It’s great that you provide practical tips for parents to help their baby get used to the bottle and eventually start drinking from it.

    Thank you for sharing this valuable advice for parents dealing with bottle refusal. It’s a reminder that patience and a gentle approach are essential during this process. #ParentingTips 👶🍼

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  5. Does it have to be expressed milk or can I try with formula?

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  6. My baby boy is 5 months old and has (almost)always refused a bottle. My hubby and I are supposed to go on our annual camping trip (alone) in 2 weeks! he will take a bottle on occasion from someone else but usually refuses. I’m feeling so lost and hopeless. What can I do?

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    1. You can book a visit with any of the IBCLCs listed above who specialize in bottle refusal- including me- and we can help!

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      1. I’m currently trying this with my 5 month old. She’s only ever EBF, but I’m going back to work part time and she refuses a bottle with anyone, including myself. She’ll suck on the nipple but one I attach a bottle and milk, she might take a few suckles and then refuses. What timeframes do I do each of these steps? Can I do one right after the other or should we slowly spread out these introductions throughout the 3 days??

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    2. what did you end up doing?? in the same boat here!

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  7. Thank you for this article. Do you recommend doing these exercises right before feeding or in between feedings. Also I know my little gets my milk really fast. Should I use a faster nipple?

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    1. You do them between feeds, and yes, if you have fast milk flow then a very slow flow nipple may not work for your baby!

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  8. My baby takes bottle with the babysitter but refuses the bottle with me. My milk supply depleted recently and baby have not been drinking milk since the last night feed from the babysitter until morning. Seems like baby only want my breast for comfort sucking at night. My babysitter is stopping soon. I need to be able to bottle feed my baby myself. Help!

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  9. I’m so happy I found this article, thank you. Your tone and approach is so appreciated because you are spot on – it feels like an emergency to us as parents even when we still have time to figure it out! We’ll definitely be giving these ideas a try. Thank you so much for sharing!

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  10. Thank you for the 3 articles very good reading, I have an 8 week old and we introduced a bottle once a day at 3 weeks, we seem to now have an 8 week old who doesn’t want a bottle particularly at bedtime which is when I’m trying to introduce it. It’s been a bit like torture trying to give it to her so I tried your suggested techniques last night and bingo she took her bottle after a good 30 minutes of offering my finger/empty teat and then bottle. She took a bottle beautifully this morning at 10am which is the feed I first introduced but tonight she’s not so keen. She’s taken about 1.5oz and stopped. Previously I’ve wondered if she has wind/just isn’t hungry do the bottle- so many things to take into account. Do you suggest I just keep repeating your process? She can take a bottle we know she can she just seems to choose when she wants to! Any advice greatly appreciated!

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  11. Great articles, I really like the tone of them, the humour is greatly appreciated on a topic that people can be a bit sanctimonious about. Thanks for all the advice. We will be trying this.

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  12. This was the BEST advice I received! We have been working with my 3 month old for 2 weeks trying to get him ready for daycare and this worked in literally a day! Thank you so much!

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    1. Yay, I’m so glad it helped!

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  13. So what are other reasons baby will not take a bottle even when you have tried all of this?

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  14. Thank you so much for this information. My baby is 6 months and will not take a bottle. I had literally tried EVERYTHING that was suggested and even tried the bottles you listed. I’m going to try to reintroduce the bottle with the new things you suggested. Let’s hope it works! :)

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    1. Any luck? My baby is 6 months old as well and I’m starting to panic since I will be going away for a night and my mother in law will not be able to feed him.

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