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All Topics General Dating Sex Grooming Style Fitness Food More News Movies & TV Music Career Gaming Health Finance Tech Drinks Travel Sports Ask A Question By posting you agree that you have read the Community Rules & Guidelines Kingslayer Always Pays His Debts 10 years ago Do women hold grudges longer than men? In my experience, if a man has a beef with another person, or is slighted by that person, they tend to forgive after a certain amount of time more often than women. The women I know will hold grudges forever and bringing up an incident that happened perhaps years ago to them still feels like yesterday. Clearly it depends on the slight. If someone did something to me that was truly fked up, I will likely write that person off for good. But a bad word here/misunderstanding there from a good friend or relative, I typically forgive and move on after a certain amount of time. What say you? Is it different between men and men/ men and women/ women and men/ women and women? General Log in to answer

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It's spam It's a duplicate It's offensive It's not a valid question or answer It's not written in English Other MorganG AskMen Reader 10 years ago I always thought the subject of grudge holding was an interesting one. I’ve considered it in the past, but more on a human level than on a gender level. I’ve always suspected that the degree to which we hold a grudge is proportionate to the degree of self-importance we subscribe to. And I’ve often questioned whether grudge-holding is even as negative as we seem to think it is. I mean, maybe holding a grudge to some degree is just a defense mechanism that protects us from future harm. Like a once bitten twice shy kind of thing. Unfortunately I haven’t seen a correlation between gender and grudge-holding on a large scale. I don’t have enough people experience to see patterns like that. But I can say that I personally find that I will hold a grudge against another woman longer than I would a man. That’s because of my tendency to hold men in higher esteem than I hold most women. I know that it’s a flaw in my reasoning without basis except that of my own personal experience, but I’ve never been able to condition myself out of it. I am by far more forgiving of men than of women, even if it was the same offense perpetrated. Log in to reply Kingslayer Always Pays His Debts 10 years ago This is a very insightful and honest post, Morgan. Thanks for that. I can see some truth in your defense mechanism point. Do you think a lot of women feel the same way in terms of holding men in higher esteem and being more forgiving of men than women? Log in to reply MorganG AskMen Reader 10 years ago @Kingslayer I couldn’t dare speak for all or even most women. But I don’t see the same affinity that I have toward men from most women I know. If anything I see too often a lack of respect for men. I definitely know some women who subscribe more to the sisterhood mindset and would be more willing to forgive or side with another woman over a man and that may influence their tendency to hold a grudge differently based on gender. I also know rare women who respect men but who can also be objective in their evaluation of a situation and who are not influenced by gender bias. I envy them. I haven’t evolved to that yet. We’re a product of our experiences and my personal experiences with men vs women have skewed my perception of the genders to develop a bias toward men and it comes out in my willingness to forgive transgressions, among other ways. I’d assume another women could have a quite opposite experience and make very different correlations as a result. I don’t think there’s a clear answer KS. Log in to reply This comment has been deleted. DoctorDoom AskMen Reader 10 years ago The person I personally know who holds grudges the longest is a male. IMO its not really about gender, but a reflection of how stubborn that person might be. Log in to reply Wilde Wilde-ly Respected 10 years ago I agree with the stubbornness thing, In my experience it's men hands down, but that might be because of my culture. Celtic men can hold grudges for 300-400 years. Log in to reply phillygirl AskMen Reader 10 years ago @Wilde Lol, Celtic woman are often not the most forgiving peeps to walk the Earth either... Log in to reply This comment has been deleted. johnker AskMen Reader 9 years ago You just disproved yourself. You are a woman, and take a look at your attitude. "Case in point." I don't seen any posts from men of this nature. Log in to reply Deleted AskMen Reader 10 years ago [deleted] Log in to reply phillygirl AskMen Reader 10 years ago I think families, which can be influenced by ethnic backgrounds, tend to have a culture to them that gets passed down the generations regarding forgiveness, grudges, etc. Also, I think your beliefs regarding loyalty play a part in all of this. I do not think gender impacts it at all. Personally, I do not get upset over small stuff. I have had the same friends for 20+ years, with no drama. However, if you break my trust, we are done. There is no recovery from that.... Log in to reply marc877 AskMen Reader 10 years ago Yup. Twenty years from now she'll be able to tell you about the one time you left the toilet seat up. That's just how women work. [lol] Log in to reply Anonymous AskMen Reader 10 years ago Yes they probably do. Log in to reply johnker AskMen Reader 9 years ago There are scientific studies that show women tend to hold grudges. There may be a genetic and evolutionary reason for that, being men typically handle physical conflicts, and societies where men are able to resolve differences, are more likely to thrive. There is not an evolutionary benefit for women resolving conflict. Log in to reply Ask A Question By posting you agree that you have read the Community Rules & Guidelines

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