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By Bobbi Misick · Updated October 29, 2020 Getting your Trinity Audio player ready…

At first, talking dirty can feel awkward, clumsy or even embarrassing. But once you realize it’s just extra, sexy level of communication with your man it can heat your sexual life up more than you ever imagined.

Try one of these 20 naughty phrases next time you’re in the mood. Or, if there’s a favorite dirty phrase you like to use share it with us in the comments…

Fantasy Play. Cuddle up on a lonely park bench and tell him your deepest, sexiest fantasies. Get specific. Where are you? How is the mood? What position are you in? Where are his hands? Where is his mouth?

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We Miss You. Send a steamy photo of yourself topless to your over-worked boyfriend, putting in late hours at the office. Let the caption read, “Bet you haven’t seen these in a while!”

Laundry Day. Put a sexy spin on laundry day and take a cue from Eartha Kitt in “Boomerang” when you tell your man, “I don’t have any panties on.” Watch him loose it.

Anytime, Anyplace. The next time you and your guy are at a friend’s house party, take him into the spare bedroom and tell him how badly you want him right here and right now. Show a little skin to let him know you mean business.

Bathroom Buddies. Corner your new guy while you’re out at a party and whisper, “The bathroom downstairs is unoccupied,” with a flirty grin. That’s all the dirty talk he’ll need to start a steamy restroom makeout session.

Game Time. As silly as it sounds, men often just want to hear you talk about what’s going on in the moment. Fill in the blanks: “Your big ____ is ______ to my ________.”

Design of the Times. After your next beauty appointment, lean into your man and tell him, “I got a new design with my bikini wax. I can’t wait to show it to you.”

Tonight It’s All About Me. Take charge with your dirty talk. Tell him what you want him to do to your body, how you want it and make sure he follows instructions. For example: “I want you to lay me down on the bed, kiss my neck, move a little lower, a little lower…”

Get In Touch. Reach in between his legs and tell him you love his member.

Get Ready. When you’re out with your girls, getting ready to head home to your sweetheart, send him a text message that reads, “I’m on my way home and I can’t wait to touch you all over when I get there. Are you ready for all of this?” Oh he’ll be ready.

Talk To Me. In your breathiest, Jessica Rabbit-style voice, ask him to tell you what he wants you to do to his body and how he wants it. He’ll be so happy you did.

Talented Guy. If your guy knows what he’s doing in bed tell how much you appreciate it. “Oh my gosh! That thing you did last time with your tongue — un-freaking-believable!” He’ll be quite inclined to do it again.

Dirty Thoughts. While you’re out running errands with your guy, tell him, “I haven’t been able to stop thinking about the last time you came over. How you had my back up against the wall like that.” End it with a deep sigh.

Downtown. Wake up in the morning, slide seductively on top of your man get as close as you can to his face and tell him, “I’m going to go down on you for a very, very long time.”

Let’s Go. Things are heating up with you and your boo while your out at a lounge on Friday night. Without separating your lips from his tell him, “Take me home right now.”

Touch Me Tease Me. As the mood heats up with you and your man, grab his hand, guide it between your legs and ask him, “Do you feel how hot I am for you?”

Don’t Stop. Sometimes all men want is a little reassurance that they’re doing a good job. Let him know if he’s hitting the spot with, “Holy crap! That feels so amazing! Whatever you do, don’t stop.”

Climax. The go-to, “Oh my gosh! I’m coming! I’m coming!” can never be over-used — unless of course you’re faking it.

Baby, You’re the Best. Doesn’t it feel good to turn to your man after a hot session, still floating in your sex haze, and say, “Baby, that was the best I’ve ever had,” and mean it.

I Want More. Let him know you want an encore by saying, “Last night was so good, I want to do it again.”

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