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Get a Girlfriend Fast (10+ Ways to Stand Out and Find the Right Girl) Download Article Explore this Article IN THIS ARTICLE 1 Ask a friend to set you up. 2 Talk to people on social media. 3 Try dating apps. 4 Join a new group or club. 5 Approach girls in public. 6 Use open body language. 7 Ask a girl you click with to go out with you. 8 Get to know the girl on your date. 9 Spend more time together. 10 Figure out if you’re a good fit. 11 Ask her to be your girlfriend when you’re ready. 12 Get back out there if she’s not the one. + Show 9 more... - Show less... Other Sections Video Tips and Warnings Related Articles References Co-authored by Lisa Shield and Hannah Madden

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This article was co-authored by Lisa Shield and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Lisa Shield is a love and relationship expert based in Los Angeles. She has a Master's degree in Spiritual Psychology and is a certified life and relationship coach with over 17 years of experience. Lisa has been featured in The Huffington Post, Buzzfeed, LA Times, and Cosmopolitan. There are 8 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources. This article has been viewed 773,077 times.

If you’ve been single for a while, you might be wondering how you can land a girlfriend—and fast. While there’s no miraculous way to make a girl fall in love with you, there are a few ways you can put yourself out there and set yourself up for success. Keep reading to learn where you can meet potential dates and how you can approach them to ask them out.

Things You Should Know

• Dating apps, mutual friends, clubs, and social media are all great ways to meet new people (like future girlfriends, for instance!).
• If you hit it off with a girl, ask her on a date. Keep building your connection and when you feel ready, ask her to be your girlfriend.
• If it doesn't work out, don't get discouraged. Instead, get back out there and try again.

Steps

1

Ask a friend to set you up.

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1. Your friends might know a few single people you could talk to. If your friends don’t already know, tell them that you’re single and ready to mingle. They might be able to set you up with a friend, classmate, or coworker who’s also living the single life.[1]
   • You could also ask your family members if they know any single girls you could reach out to.
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Talk to people on social media.

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1. You can reconnect with old friends or reach out to new ones. If you see someone cute on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter, try reaching out via DM to start a conversation. As you two chat, you might be able to get her number and then eventually ask her out.[2]
   • If you already know her, try starting the conversation with something like, “Hey! Remember me? I think we had English class together in high school.”
   • If you don’t know her, try something like, “Hey, you seem really cool! I love that new pic you just posted.”

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Try dating apps.

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1. Connect with other single people looking for love. Try downloading Tinder, Bumble, Coffee meets Bagel, or Hinge to start conversations with girls in your area. If you see someone that you like, send them a message to get a conversation going.[3]
   • You can get a good conversation going on a dating app by talking about something they put in their profile or their bio. If you see that they’ve been skydiving before, try something like, “I’ve always wanted to go skydiving! Was it super scary?”
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Join a new group or club.

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1. Get in touch with like-minded people in your area. If you have a hobby, try searching for clubs or meetup groups for your specific activity. Or, try out something new by joining a club you’ve never heard of before. You’re sure to meet some cool people, and you’ll at least make new friends out of the experience.[4]
   • Try looking for groups like this on Facebook or NextDoor.
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Approach girls in public.

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1. It sounds scary, but it can help you meet new people fast. If you spot a cute girl out in public, feel free to go up to her and start chatting. If you aren't sure what to say, try commenting on something around you. Then, let the conversation flow from there.[5]
   • For instance, if you’re at a coffee shop, you might say, “I always get the same vanilla latte. What’s your drink order? I’m thinking of mixing it up.”
   • Some women might not want to be approached in public, which is fine. If the girl you’re talking to isn’t responding or looks uncomfortable, don’t push it.
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Use open body language.

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1. When you’re out and about, don’t close yourself off. Instead, stand with your arms down by your side and your head held high. Maintain good posture and make eye contact with people, and smile as you pass them by.[6]
   • Open body language suggests that you’re open to chatting with new people.
   • Try to avoid looking down and crossing your arms, since that signals you don’t want to talk to anyone.
   • If you like a girl, try using your body language to flirt with her. Look into her eyes a little longer than you normally would, lean in closer to her, or touch her on the arm or elbow, for instance.

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Ask a girl you click with to go out with you.

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1. When you decide to ask a girl out, plan an activity for you two. You could try walking in the park, going out to dinner, or seeing a movie. If you have something specific to do, she’ll be more likely to say yes.[7]
   • You could also go to a bookstore, take a cooking class together, visit an outdoor market, go to a poetry reading, or go stargazing.
   • Say something like, “You seem super cool. Would you want to go grab a coffee with me tomorrow morning?”
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Get to know the girl on your date.

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1. Now’s your chance to see if you two are compatible. When you hang out on your date, talk about your interests, your friends, and what you want to do in the future. If you’re both having fun, then that means you two should probably keep seeing each other! If you’re not having such a great time, it probably means you two just aren’t meant to be.[8]
   • Bad dates might happen, and that’s okay. Going out on dates is the only way to figure out if you want this girl to be your girlfriend or not (and if she wants to be yours).
   • Reader Poll: We asked 1049 wikiHow readers who've asked someone on a date, and 52% of them agreed that the best way to approach it is by taking things slow and getting to know them. [Take Poll]

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Spend more time together.

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1. If your first date went well, ask her out for another one. You can plan another activity for you two, or you can let her take the lead. Keep heading out on dates until you two feel like you really know each other.[9]
   • Try out a variety of fun things to explore stuff together. You could try hiking, roller blading, going to the beach, getting drinks, or having a picnic.
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Figure out if you’re a good fit.

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1. As you two hang out, think about how you feel when you’re around her. Just because you guys go on a few dates doesn’t necessarily mean you two would make a good couple. If you have a fun time with her, are able to talk about a wide variety of topics, and think she’s a good person, then you’re probably a good match.[10]
   • On the flip side, if you two often run out of things to talk about, argue, or don’t really have a good time together, it might be time to set your sights elsewhere.
   • If you aren’t a good fit, let her know that the spark just isn’t there and you don’t think you guys are going to work out.

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Ask her to be your girlfriend when you’re ready.

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1. Once you feel like you know her well, you can pop the question. There’s no specific timeline for how long you should wait to ask, but you two should probably have gone out on a few dates at least. Try asking her to be your girlfriend when you’re out on a romantic date to make her feel special.
   • You could say something like, “I really like you, and I like where our relationship is going. I was wondering if you’d want to make it official and be my girlfriend.”
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Get back out there if she’s not the one.

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1. Getting a girlfriend might take a few tries. If you went on a few dates and it just didn’t work out, that’s okay! The important thing is that you pick yourself back up and try again. Keep putting yourself out there until you find the right girl for you.[11]
   • The more dates you go on, the more likely you are to find a girlfriend.

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How do you actually get a girlfriend? I have no idea WikiLlamaGlider700 I don’t really understand how someone gets a girlfriend. Do you just sort of ask a girl you like if they want to be your girlfriend or do you do dates first before you ask? I feel embarrassed because I really don’t know and I have friends who say they take girlfriends out on dates and stuff, but I don’t want to seem like I don’t know. I have liked girls before but never did anything with them. How does the whole thing work? Where would you meet a girlfriend? What do you do with them that’s so different outside of kissing and stuff? Read More Lauren Sanders Matchmaker & Dating Coach I think the best way to go about looking for a girlfriend is to be proactive. Place yourself in situations to meet more people. For instance, social gatherings are a wonderful way to meet new and different people. The more exposure the better. Likewise, exposing yourself via dating apps and social media is a good idea. Introverts typically do better with dating sites versus meeting in person. However, be careful not to be too desperate in your search for a girlfriend. Just think of it as a new opportunity to meet new people. And if you meet your girlfriend…it will be a plus! Read More wikiHow Editorial Team You can meet girls anywhere—school, work, a coffee shop, the mall, a game store, the gym, the library, a party, a sporting event, and so on. Strike up a conversation with a girl you're interested in and spend time getting to know her. Chat and text a little bit (after exchanging numbers), then ask her out on a date.Typically, you'll go on a few dates before asking someone to be your girlfriend or be exclusive. Then, once things are official, you keep spending time together. Find fun activities you're both interested in, like going to a concert or art gallery, playing mini-golf or going rock climbing, going out for dinner, coffee, or ice cream, seeing movies, and generally hanging out with each other. Read More See all 22 Replies and Read Discussion

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1. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201408/how-and-where-to-meet-women-or-men
2. ↑ https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a25046603/how-to-get-a-girlfriend-boyfriend/
3. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201408/how-and-where-to-meet-women-or-men
4. ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/tips-for-finding-lasting-love.htm/
5. ↑ https://tawkify.com/blog/start-dating/how-to-approach-women-with-confidence-and-respect
6. ↑ https://tawkify.com/blog/start-dating/how-to-approach-women-with-confidence-and-respect
7. ↑ https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/how-to-ask-someone-out-respectfully/
8. ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/tips-for-finding-lasting-love.htm/
9. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201303/avoiding-the-friend-zone-becoming-a-girlfriend-or-boyfriend

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10. ↑ https://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-tell-if-someone-is-right-for-you-2018-2
11. ↑ https://www.mantelligence.com/how-to-get-a-girlfriend/

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Co-authored by: Lisa Shield Dating Coach This article was co-authored by Lisa Shield and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Lisa Shield is a love and relationship expert based in Los Angeles. She has a Master's degree in Spiritual Psychology and is a certified life and relationship coach with over 17 years of experience. Lisa has been featured in The Huffington Post, Buzzfeed, LA Times, and Cosmopolitan. This article has been viewed 773,077 times. 1,011 votes - 64% Co-authors: 20 Updated: October 24, 2025 Views: 773,077 Categories: Getting a Girlfriend In other languages Portuguese Spanish Indonesian Arabic Vietnamese French Dutch Hindi German Italian Korean Thai Turkish Czech Japanese

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