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This article was co-authored by Sarah Schewitz, PsyD. Sarah Schewitz, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist by the California Board of Psychology with over 10 years of experience. She received her Psy.D. from the Florida Institute of Technology in 2011. She is the founder of Couples Learn, an online psychology practice helping couples and individuals improve and change their patterns in love and relationships. There are 13 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been viewed 188,247 times.

Being around an impatient person can make you feel like you are walking in a field of landmines. What’s more, people with little patience often inspire you to lose your own. No matter what you do, you are bound to encounter an impatient person in your work, school, or in a personal relationship. Learn how to react to impatience and not let it get the best of you.

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Reacting in the Moment

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  1. Step 1 Make "I" statements when talking to an impatient person. 1 Make "I" statements when talking to an impatient person. To alleviate some of his or her impatience, mind your language. Explaining how the impatience affects you should be done with the goal of finding a solution and not just causing trouble or pointing the finger. This is not a time to start a fight, but to build on a supportive relationship and talk about what is really going on. Use an "I" statement to express your feelings without causing blame.
    • For example, you might say "I get overwhelmed when you rush me with my work. This project will take a few hours. Can you hold off on checking in until tomorrow?"
    • Be sure to comment on the behavior as the issue, not the person. Because you know this person well you want to focus on the short-term behavior while maintaining the positive side of your day-to-day relationship. Don’t stir the pot, instead confront the immediate problem and move on.
  2. Step 2 Avoid saying “take it easy” or “calm down”. 2 Avoid saying “take it easy” or “calm down”. Becoming impatient can be a sign of an underlying issue, so avoid making comments that would minimize what is really going on. An impatient person can be under stress, feeling isolated, reacting to an unexpected delay or a host of other feelings. Dismissing the person's feelings with a “take it easy” or “calm down” may trigger a bigger reaction.
    • Focus on words that acknowledge the behavior and does not try to downplay the reaction. For example, if the person appears angry about having to wait, you might start with “You appear angry (or stressed, tired, upset, etc.), what can I do to help?”. This starts a conversation and avoids more conflict.
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  3. Step 3 Ask how you can help the person. 3 Ask how you can help the person. Instead of making a bigger problem out of someone being impatient, asking to help in a genuine way gives the person a chance to be heard. This tells the person that you are open to talking about it and that you would like to find a way to address his or her needs.
    • Even if you can’t immediately give impatient people what they are asking for, giving them a timeline or an update can often soothe their discomfort for the time being.
  4. Step 4 Protect yourself from an angry response. 4 Protect yourself from an angry response. Sometimes, another person's impatience can provoke an angry response within you. Know that getting angry in response to another person's anger or irritation will only make matters worse. Try one of these strategies to de-escalate your anger before the situation gets out of hand.[1]
    • Practice deep breathing. Inhale air through your mouth for 4 counts. Hold the breath for 7 counts and then slowly exhale for 8 counts. Repeat this until you regain your composure.
    • Ask the person for a break. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts and calm yourself down. Call a friend or take a quick walk. Then, come back to sort out the issue once you have cooled off.
    • Find a mediator. Some people are just hard to work with. Look for a superior or other individual who can mediate a discussion between you and the impatient person. This prevents you from getting wound up. The impartial person can help sort out the problem without being emotionally involved.
  5. Step 5 Ignore the behavior and continue as you were. 5 Ignore the behavior and continue as you were. Some people are just naturally impatient. It’s part of who they are. If you know the person is often impatient, there may not be much you can do about it beyond ignoring it. If you take it personally instead of just accepting it, you are fighting a losing battle. Recognizing that a boss, co-worker or even an personal acquaintance tends to be a bit impatient in general will help you to understand that you shouldn't take it personal.[2]
    • Ignoring is a great approach for people you do not see on a regular basis or only know in passing. If there isn’t an ongoing relationship, it might just be a waste of time to focus too much time on the behavior.
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Responding to Specific Scenarios

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  1. Step 1 Anticipate impatience at work. 1 Anticipate impatience at work. When you encounter impatience from a boss or coworker it can actually negatively impact your performance.[3] If you know that you are going to be dealing with someone who is impatient, try to prioritize the work so that you can alleviate distress on both accounts.
    • How you respond to impatience in everyday life will generally depend on your relationship with the impatient individual. Be proactive about handling impatience based on your relationship with the offending person.
    • For example, if you know your boss gets really fussy about reports being turned in at the last minute, push aside other work to have your report turned in early.
    • If you are unable to prioritize helping the impatient person, try to work out a schedule with the individual that meets both your needs. Let him or her know that you see the anxiety and would like to find a solution. Once a schedule has been agreed upon, be sure to stick to it to minimize impatience in the future.
  2. Step 2 Talk to your partner about how impatience affects you. 2 Talk to your partner about how impatience affects you.[4] In the case of a romantic relationship, you may have more freedom to express your thoughts and feelings about impatience. "I" statements work well here, also.[5]
    • Plan a time to sit down with your partner and discuss the source of impatience. Does your boyfriend get impatient because you take too long to get ready for dates? Does your wife grow impatient when you can't make up your mind on what you want for dinner? Both individuals should try to express the issue to their partners. "I feel anxious when you are impatient with me. What can I do to minimize you feeling this way?"
    • Next, try to devise a solution that takes both individuals into account. For example, maybe the boyfriend can arrive a few minutes late to pick up his girlfriend to allow her a few minutes extra to dress. Or, she can get the basics done and finish her makeup or hair in the car.
    • You might also work together to come up with a cue word or phrase that you can say when you feel like they're becoming impatient with you.[6]
  3. Step 3 Develop a system to overcome impatience in children. 3 Develop a system to overcome impatience in children. If you frequently notice impatience in your children or teens, come up with practical ways to manage their impatience while also preventing yourself from becoming irritable or frustrated. Again, this will require a mindful evaluation of the problem or a discussion with the individual to see what strategies may work.
    • For a small child that becomes impatient when you are busy or preoccupied, you may be able to provide a toy, activity, or snack to temporarily distract until you are capable of attending to his or her needs.
    • For a teen, the solution will depend on the context. Say your teen gets impatient when she has to wait on you to finish a phone call. You can ask her to write down what she needs and prepare her thoughts on the subject while you finish the call. If your teenage son gets impatient because his soccer uniform isn't being washed in a timely fashion, he can give you a head's up when he will need it so you can wash it promptly. Alternatively, you can teach him to do his own laundry. Or, you can purchase two uniforms so that one is always clean.
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Understanding Impatience

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  1. Step 1 Recognize how today’s fast-paced society reinforces impatience. 1 Recognize how today’s fast-paced society reinforces impatience. We live in a world that moves at the speed of light and expect almost immediate access to most things on demand. The internet puts so much information at the tips of our fingers we can forget that people need time to work, prepare reports and process information. We are not machines, and building the human factor into life is important.[7]
  2. Step 2 See the connection between impatience, anger and health. 2 See the connection between impatience, anger and health. Too much stress and be damaging to your own health and the health of those around you. Strive to find ways to avoid this stress when it is unneeded and not productive.[8]
    • Stress can be a cause of impatience. Addressing the overall stress of a given situation can improve the environment for everyone involved and make it safer for your overall health.
    • Instead of arguing over the obvious impatience, look at the long term stress as something that can be changed.[9]
  3. Step 3 Learn from others’ impatience. 3 Learn from others’ impatience. Impatience is a sign of being caught up in the future rather than the present moment. Witnessing others’ impatience can remind us to be mindful. It can also remind us that our actions affect others, take others impatience as a call to action if needed.[10] [11]
  4. Step 4 Strive for empathy. 4 Strive for empathy. Empathy really means stepping into the other person’s shoes to see how they might view the situation. Instead of having an emotional response about their impatience, stop to think about where it could be coming from and consider the other person’s role in the task or situation.[12] [13]
    • A big part of empathy can be tied to clearly understanding how your part of the assignment or task at hand affects others. For example, if your coworkers have to wait for your part of a report to start theirs, it might make sense that they are impatient if they do not know where the report stands.
  5. Step 5 Refrain from letting impatience affect you. 5 Refrain from letting impatience affect you. This works best for people that fall into two groups, either you only see them on a rare occasion or you know them well enough to know their impatience is temporary and not tied to your actions. If you have a family member who is going through outside stress, he or she may just be a bit more impatient overall and that can probably be ignored. Picking your battles will allow you to focus on the task that needs to be finished and overall will end the conflict. You can’t focus on the task if you are always fighting a losing battle.[14]
    • Count to 100 silently. This forces you to focus on nothing beyond counting and slowing your heart rate to a more relaxed rate.
    • Practice regular self-care. Your self-care will depend on what makes you relaxed and centered. Some people enjoy a good, hard workout to rejuvenate while others like the quiet time with a good book or meditation.[15]
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  • Question How do I get my partner to be more patient with me? Sarah Schewitz, PsyD Sarah Schewitz, PsyD Licensed Psychologist Sarah Schewitz, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist by the California Board of Psychology with over 10 years of experience. She received her Psy.D. from the Florida Institute of Technology in 2011. She is the founder of Couples Learn, an online psychology practice helping couples and individuals improve and change their patterns in love and relationships. Sarah Schewitz, PsyD Sarah Schewitz, PsyD Licensed Psychologist Expert Answer Tell them how their behavior makes you feel and ask if that's something they're willing to work on changing to make you more comfortable in the relationship. Then, come up with a cue word or phrase that you can say to them to indicate that it's happening now. Thanks! We're glad this was helpful. Thank you for your feedback. If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow Yes No Not Helpful 5 Helpful 11
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  • Try to talk in the nicest way; if you don't, it will make them more impatient. Thanks Helpful 5 Not Helpful 3
  • If the situation is getting tense between you two, then seek a mediator. Thanks Helpful 3 Not Helpful 4
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  • The problem lies with them and you have every right to let them know. Thanks Helpful 25 Not Helpful 5
  • Don't let impatient people ruffle you. Most of it is just show, reflecting pent-up anger or poor planning on their behalf. They don't have the right to boss others around or be rude, just because they can't get their own way by shoving or being in front of everybody else in life. Thanks Helpful 28 Not Helpful 7
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References

  1. ↑ http://liveboldandbloom.com/04/relationships/angry-people
  2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/clear-organized-and-motivated/201411/understanding-impatience
  3. ↑ https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newTCS_78.htm
  4. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fixing-families/201101/the-art-solving-relationship-problems
  5. ↑ Sarah Schewitz, PsyD. Licensed Psychologist. Expert Interview
  6. ↑ Sarah Schewitz, PsyD. Licensed Psychologist. Expert Interview
  7. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201412/and-the-opposite-of-impatience-is
  8. ↑ http://www.livescience.com/25085-impatience-may-hurt-heart.html
  9. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201412/and-the-opposite-of-impatience-is
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  1. ↑ http://personalexcellence.co/blog/patience/
  2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/turning-straw-into-gold/201305/impatient-why-and-how-to-practice-patience
  3. ↑ https://hbr.org/2014/12/signs-that-you-lack-emotional-intelligence
  4. ↑ http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/six_habits_of_highly_empathic_people1
  5. ↑ http://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety/tips-for-friends-family
  6. ↑ http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_neuroscience_of_happiness/

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Sarah Schewitz, PsyD Co-authored by: Sarah Schewitz, PsyD Licensed Psychologist This article was co-authored by Sarah Schewitz, PsyD. Sarah Schewitz, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist by the California Board of Psychology with over 10 years of experience. She received her Psy.D. from the Florida Institute of Technology in 2011. She is the founder of Couples Learn, an online psychology practice helping couples and individuals improve and change their patterns in love and relationships. This article has been viewed 188,247 times. 13 votes - 69% Co-authors: 24 Updated: February 19, 2026 Views: 188,247 Categories: Emotions and Feelings

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To cope with an impatient person, try talking to them about how you feel since they might not even realize their behavior bothers you. Just make sure you use "I" statements so they don't get defensive. For example, you could say "I get overwhelmed when you rush me to finish getting ready, could you give me a little more space?" Or, if you feel like you can't talk to them without lashing out, take a few deep breaths or walk away for a few minutes so you can regain your composure. Remember, you'll make a lot more progress with them if you approach the situation calmly, and it might be better to just ignore them than to get upset. For more tips from our co-author, like how to be more understanding of impatient people, scroll down! Did this summary help you?YesNo

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