How To Find + Interpret Black Moon Lilith In A Natal Chart

Lilith in a zodiac sign tends to accentuate the “darker” or negative versions of that sign.

For instance, Cancer is associated with the energy of tribal-level bonding, and on the chart, represents where we tend to express affection and caregiving. Lilith in Cancer tilts that energy towards smother-love, where affections can intensify, erupt into “you’re either with me or against me” ultimatums, and finally crescendo into… not only tribal eviction, but burn the house down scenarios. 🤭

By contrast, the Moon in Cancer tends to amplify and deepen Cancer’s themes for affect and nurturing. The Moon absorbs whatever it comes into contact with, drawing objects deep into itself, metabolizing experiences on a soul-level. The Moon also rules Cancer, amplifying the feeling of somatic-level personal connection to another person and/or an environment. 🌙♋️

In Cancer, Lilith craves that deep interpersonal connection and implicit belongingness, but also tends to alienate herself from it. Her soulful, intuitive, heart-felt connections become trigger points.

Un-woke to this tendency, Lilith tends to become emotionally enmeshed with the objects of her affection, and then ultimately (and quickly) begins to resent the feelings and neediness she’s inspired. 🐍♋️

Thus, Lilith’s trademark erraticism kicks in, and she flees the situation… usually leaving the others feeling bereft.

lilith in the signs ♈️♉️♊️ >

Lilith’s zodiac sign tells you a little about her manipulative tendencies. Lilith expresses herself through the “shadow qualities” of the sign.

🌟 LILITH IN THE AIR SIGNS (Libra, Aquarius, Gemini ♎️♒️♊️ 🪶) > Lilith in an Air sign builds fast friendship and affinity through rapport, appealing to others’ sense of grace, or contorting the truth for relatability. She might rope others into a grand scheme, then turn a cold shoulder. She might say one thing (the nice thing she should say), then do the opposite. Airy Lilith often alienates through rule-mongering and should-isms, or uses her social advantage to annex contrarians. Prone to inventing rationalizations for discrediting perceived enemies. Others might feel they have to choose their words carefully, and that they can’t entirely trust the people Lilith brings ‘round. Twisted logic and fibbing abounds.

🌟 LILITH IN THE WATER SIGNS (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces ♋️♏️♓️💧) > Lilith in a Water sign bonds with others almost on sight, proclaiming new friends to be soul-mates and one-of-the-family, and by revealing secrets or relaying intense personal stories. She’s prone to taking emotional hostages, fabricating us against the world scenarios, threatening her own life if the bond should break. Might accuse others in her crosshairs as being “un-woke”, or emotionally vampiric while indulging in fits of inappropriate catharsis (laughing at a funeral, weeping on a first date). Needy, wants to be babied, desperately seeking a soothsayer (hi 🙋🏻‍♀️).

🌟 LILITH IN THE FIRE SIGNS (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius ♈️♌️♐️🔥) > Lilith in a Fire sign treats relationships, work, or life in general as her proving grounds. Firey Lilith warps collaborations into contests of will, building camaraderie through teasing (if not harassment), and reiterates where she and others rank (on anything, everything). She vies for kudos and a starring role, then bails on the opening or skips out on the awards night. Abandons apprenticeships, invents unnecessary rivalries, and often finds herself herself to be someone’s secret bully.

🌟 LILITH IN AN EARTH SIGNS (Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo ♑️♉️♍️🌿) > Lilith in an Earth sign can be insatiable, critical of others’ self-indulgence (if not materialism in general), and obsessed with quality, excellence, and perfection. She can be repressed about her own need for pleasure and simple luxury, or prone to lording such over others. Earthy Lilith can be resentful of having mundane responsibilities, or over-controlling of minutiae. Pie-in-the-sky ambition, and Machiavellian genius.

lilith in the houses >

Lilith’s house placement reveals where she werks the darker tendencies of her zodiac sign, the particular circumstances she’ll to manipulate.

🌟Houses 1 - 6 are the personal houses, and correlate with our interior experiences. We internalize these energies (planets) and themes (signs). We relate and interpret these energies through our identity (first house) or personal rhythm (sixth house).

🌟Houses 7 - 12 are the interpersonal houses, and correlate with experiences we have with others, either communally (eleventh house) or by reputation (tenth house). The interpersonal houses are separated from the personal houses by the horizon line running across the center of the chart, aka the Ascendent - Descendent axis.

Lilith in a house indicates the arena where we crave autocracy: the contexts and situations where we want control or leverage, while also resisting accountability.

Whichever house Lilith lands, the activities and attributes of this house will become taboo. You’re either super-hands off, or fanatical. My way or the highway…. Oh, but I really couldn’t, I’m not even sure how…

If the activities of the house involve others—whether kids (fifth house), pets (sixth house), spouses (seventh house), or colleagues (eleventh house)—those are who and what Lilith will manipulate.

“There can also be a binging and purging cycle involved with the traits of Lilith’s sign or house wherein we overdo or go all out, expressing these traits in extreme, then feel bad for doing so. This leads to a purging stage in which we reject or deprive ourselves of the traits. Eventually, the need for them is strong and we go to extremes again, perpetuating this self-destructive cycle.”

— CafeAstrology, “Black Moon Lilith in the Signs + Houses”

REMEMBER, Lilith is the part of our chart harboring shame and guilt over our needs and wants. Her sign and house placement describe what those needs are, and where she prefers to have them met… though she will eventually reject anybody who tries supplicating her, and abandon the situation.

OBVIOUSLY, regardless of her demand for autocracy (having the most amount of freedom with the least amount of accountability), over time Lilith will become weary and resentful of her own tendencies (more of which can be described and illustrated by…)…

THREE. CHECK FOR ASPECTS TO BLACK MOON LILITH.