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When Is It OK to Kiss on a Date? (And How Will You Know?) Download Article Use our guide to smooching someone for the first time and kiss your dating anxiety goodbye! Co-authored by Imad Jbara and Dev Murphy, MA
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This article was co-authored by Imad Jbara and by wikiHow staff writer, Dev Murphy, MA. Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth. There are 7 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources. This article has been viewed 365,491 times.
It’s the end of your first, second, or maybe third date with a new person who you really dig. All your laughter and joking around, your stolen glances over dinner or coffee, maybe even some tentative hand-holding—it’s all been leading up to this moment: the kiss! But how do you know when the time is right? Even if the date seemed to go well…how do you know for absolute certain that they want to lock lips? Don’t worry! That first kiss is exhilarating and anxiety-inducing for all of us, but if you want to feel more comfortable gauging your date’s interest and knowing when to lay one on ’em, check out our guide to kissing on a date, below!
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Kiss on whichever date you feel comfortable. Many people wait until the end of a first, second, or third date; this gives you time to get to know each other.
Gauge your date’s interest before planting one to make sure they’re receptive to kissing. If you’re not positive they’re up for it, ask.
Show them you’re interested by finding small ways to touch them, maintaining eye contact with them, and leaning towards them slowly.
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1 Stare at the person's mouth to show your interest. While this might seem a little silly, spending some time looking at the person's mouth can indicate you want to kiss them. Of course, you don't want to look at their mouth only, as gazing into their eyes is also romantic. Nonetheless, occasionally glancing at your date's lips can help indicate you want to kiss someone.
Don't continuously stare at your date’s mouth. They might get weirded out. Short one to two second glances here and there should do the trick!
2 Find ways to subtly touch them. This touch isn't necessarily an intimate touch. Rather, touch their arm or their shoulder as you talk, or move closer to them so your legs are touching. These small touches show you want to get closer.[1]XResearch source
You don’t have to wait until the end of the date to start your little touches; you can build up to the kiss with little touches throughout your date. If you’re at dinner together, try putting your hand on their hand. If you’re at a movie, sit close so that your shoulders touch.
If they pull back, they may not be as interested. Some people don't like to be touched, so you may need to be patient.
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3 Compliment the person. Tell the person you like the way they smile or that you find their humor charming. Everyone likes to hear nice things about themselves, and when you compliment someone, you show them you care.
Try to give sincere, direct compliments. In other words, really pay attention to the person and figure out what you like about them. That way, you can give a compliment that's specific to the person.[2]XResearch source
For instance, saying "You look pretty," is fairly general. Saying, "Your smile is so lovely. It lights up the room," is much more specific.
4 Observe their body language to see if they’re receptive. Your date’s body language will tell you a lot about whether they’re enjoying the date and whether they might like a smooch. Keep an eye out for open body language, and note if they return your flirty little touches. [3]XResearch source
If your date is into you, they might play with their hair, hold your gaze, lean toward you, or even mimic your movements (subconsciously).
And, yes, they might look at your lips, just like you’re looking at theirs! We love the sexual tension!
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Pay attention to your date's reactions to you. As your conversation flows, gauge their comfort with physical touch. Build a connection gradually. For instance, offer to gently put your arm around them while walking. If they respond positively, it could lead to further physical connection.
5 Listen for verbal cues that they're interested. Just like you compliment your date to indicate your interest, if your date is interested in you, they'll likely flirt back in some way. They might compliment you, laugh at your jokes (and try to make you laugh), or indicate investment by asking you deeper questions to get to know you.
Realize that this may not mean your date wants to kiss. They may be having a nice time, and they may like you romantically, but they could still be uncomfortable kissing yet.
If your date asks you for a piece of gum, they may be trying to freshen up their breath before a potential smooch. (Make sure you freshen up, too!)
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1 Kiss on whichever date you feel comfortable. Some people choose to wait until their third date to kiss, while others are more comfortable kissing on the first date. There aren’t hard and fast rules about which date to kiss on, but generally, people kiss after they’ve spent some time together, gotten to know one another, and gotten a feel for whether the other person is up for a little smooching.[4]XResearch source
You don't even need to be on a date to kiss: you can smooch during a casual hangout or at work or school, if the moment is right. As long as you both want to kiss, it doesn’t matter when you do it.
You may feel comfortable kissing on a first date, but remember that your date may not be, so assume nothing, and don't feel bad if they're not up for it. They may feel more comfortable after you've gone out a few times!
2 Wait until the end of the date to initiate a kiss. The end of the first, second, or third date is often when that magical first kiss occurs. Usually, a kiss acts as a goodbye—and though it doesn’t always mean a follow-up date is on the horizon, it’s a good way to let your date know if you’d like to see them again.[5]XResearch source
Waiting to kiss until the end of a date gives you more time to gauge their feelings—if you try to kiss someone without spending enough time with them, they’ll be more likely to turn you down.
Another reason to wait till the end of the date: if it doesn’t go well, or if your date rejects your kiss, you get to leave right after!
3 Pick somewhere private, but not too private. Some people are shy about kissing in front of other people. Find a place that's a bit secluded, such as your or your date’s front porch, or under a streetlight outside the restaurant you just ate at. Just make sure your kissing site isn’t too secluded, or your date might get nervous if they don’t know you well!
If you can't find a secluded spot, dim lighting (like at a restaurant or movie theater) may afford you some privacy. Studies also indicate that being intimate in dim spaces can help you be more present with your partner and feel less self-conscious—which may be particularly helpful when kissing for the first time![6]XResearch source
4 Initiate a kiss when your date lingers. If someone wants to kiss you but is too shy to ask about it or to instigate a smooch themselves, they'll likely spend some time hanging around at the end of the date. So if their body language hasn’t already convinced you they might be receptive to locking lips, if they don’t rush off at the end of the date, it’s a sign they’re probably waiting for a little kiss.
If they rush off, it doesn’t necessarily mean they didn’t want to kiss; they might be nervous or not comfortable kissing on a first date.
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1 Look the person in the eye to show them you desire them. Now that you've found the perfect spot and time, take a moment just to look the person in the eye. Gazing into someone's eyes can be quite intimate, as most people don't spend more than a few seconds looking into someone else's eyes. Hold the person's gaze as you contemplate kissing them.
2 Slowly lean in closer. Leaning in indicates you want to get more intimate, and going slowly gives your date a heads-up that you’re going to kiss them. If they don't want to kiss, going slow gives them a chance to lean away or to turn your head so you kiss their cheek.
3 If you’re not sure, ask if they want to be kissed. Consent is important, and while body language can tell you a lot about someone’s intentions, it’s often unclear what a person wants unless you come out and ask. Asking if you can kiss someone doesn't need to break the moment. Rather, it shows you respect the person enough to ask.[7]XResearch source
If you’re worried that asking will spoil the “romance,” there are lots of cute and romantic ways to ask!
You could give them a handwritten note that says, “Can I kiss you?”
Make a silly joke by saying, “Welcome to Kissville, population: us!” so they know what your intentions are (and keeping it light may alleviate the pressure if they don’t feel up for it).
Or just be direct and say, “I really want to kiss you right now” or “Would you mind if I kissed you?” Telling your date what you want can be pretty darn hot, actually!
4 Move in for the kiss. Once you know they’re up for it, it’s time to plant a kiss. Bring your face in closer, but let the other person come part way. Even if they said yes, it's good to let them make part of the move, so you know for sure they want it. You'll both need to tilt a bit so you don't bump noses, then move on with the kissing part.
Keep your lips slightly parted and soft. If you're too rigid, it won't be a great kiss.
Most people don’t French kiss the first time they kiss, but if you want to initiate tongue, and you think your date is into it, slowly introduce your tongue to your partner’s lips. If their mouth opens to receive your tongue, it’s a sign they’re interested in Frenching, but if they keep their lips closed, it likely means they’re not up for it.[8]XResearch source
5 Go easy on yourself if they reject your kiss. There are lots of reasons a person might reject a kiss, and while it can hurt, it’s important to respect their choice. Don’t take rejection too hard. It happens to everyone at some point![9]XResearch source
If your date rejects your kiss, it could mean they didn’t feel enough chemistry and aren’t interested in a romantic relationship with you. This always stings, but it’s good to know!
But it’s also possible your date likes you but they’re just not ready to kiss yet. If they seem to have had a good time, and if they express interest in going out again, it’s likely you’ll kiss them soon enough!
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Should you kiss on the first date? WikiZebraGlider531 M23 here. What are your thoughts on kissing on a first date? I can never tell when I go on a date whether I should try for a kiss, how to do it, or when. I often end up not even attempting it because I don't want to come off too strong and frankly I also don't want to be rejected. Is it safest to just wait until date number 2? Or if not, how do you initiate a kiss on a first date? Read More WikiRiverWatcher831 If you're stressed about whether or not to kiss someone on a first date, my recommendation would be to not even try to go for a kiss. This may sound negative, but worrying the whole date about whether you should kiss or how to kiss her the right way may make you anxious and make the date more stressful than it has to be. I'd set the thought of kissing her aside and just focus on getting to know her and having a good time. If the kiss happens, it'll just be a bonus! Read More WikiDolphinTrader304 I don't think there's a black and white answer here. Whether or not you should kiss someone on the first date really depends. If you had a good time and get the vibe that she did too, then generally, I say go for it--yes, there's a possibility you'll be rejected, there's always that possibility, but you gotta be brave! You can lead up to a kiss throughout the date by "breaking the touch barrier" as soon as you can: hug her or shake hands when you meet, give little touches throughout the night, like high fives or touch her hair or just be physically close to her. This will signal that you're interested in being more physically intimate, so the kiss won't seem to just come out of nowhere; it will also increase sexual tension between you. At the end of the date, though, if you're still not sure about kissing her on the mouth, try kissing her hand, or better yet give her a forehead kiss--it's cute, its pure, it's unexpected. And it lets her know your intentions. Good luck man! Read More See all 15 Replies and Read Discussion
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Question On what date should you first kiss? Imad Jbara Dating Coach Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth. Imad Jbara Dating Coach Expert Answer It could be the first date or it could be the fifth date. It really depends on how comfortable you and your partner are. When it comes to the first kiss, it helps to really not overthink it if you've already made it to the dating stage. They already have some interest in you, so try not to dwell too much on it. Just let things develop organically and you'll be fine. Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.Thank you for your feedback. If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow Yes No Not Helpful 7 Helpful 18
Question Is it possible to date two people at the same time without cheating? wikiHow Staff Editor Staff Answer This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness. wikiHow Staff Editor Staff Answer As long as the people you're dating know you're not exclusive, it's not cheating. Cheating means you've betrayed someone's trust, so if any of the people you're seeing think you're exclusive, let them know you're not! Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.Thank you for your feedback. If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow Yes No Not Helpful 8 Helpful 11
Question What if you kiss them and they don’t like it? wikiHow Staff Editor Staff Answer This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness. wikiHow Staff Editor Staff Answer Rejection hurts. Believe us, we know! If you think your date wants to kiss you, but it turns out they didn't, apologize and make sure they're OK. This is why it's important to read all their signs and ask for consent before kissing. But if you kissed and the kiss just didn't go very well, go easy on yourself! Even if this isn't your first kiss ever, it's your first kiss with someone new, and that's almost guaranteed to be a little awkward. You're both bound to enjoy it more after a few attempts (if you're both up for trying again). Thanks! We're glad this was helpful.Thank you for your feedback. If wikiHow has helped you, please consider a small contribution to support us in helping more readers like you. We’re committed to providing the world with free how-to resources, and even $1 helps us in our mission. Support wikiHow Yes No Not Helpful 2 Helpful 5
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Co-authored by: Imad Jbara Dating Coach This article was co-authored by Imad Jbara and by wikiHow staff writer, Dev Murphy, MA. Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth. This article has been viewed 365,491 times. 26 votes - 82% Co-authors: 12Updated: November 27, 2024 Views: 365,491 Categories: Featured Articles | KissingArticle SummaryX
Even if you’re having a great time on a date, it can be tricky to know when the time is right for a kiss. It’s usually best to wait for a moment close to the end of the date. Find a quiet, somewhat private spot and observe your date’s body language and facial expressions. If you notice them leaning in close to you, touching you lightly on the arm or shoulder, or glancing at your lips, they might be in the mood for a kiss. You can also try getting close and see whether they lean in or move away. If you think your date is interested in kissing you, look them in the eye and say something like, “I had so much fun spending time with you tonight. Is it okay if I kiss you?” If they say yes, go for it. On the other hand, if they say no, respect their decision and don’t push it. Did this summary help you?YesNo
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WikiZebraGlider531 M23 here. What are your thoughts on kissing on a first date? I can never tell when I go on a date whether I should try for a kiss, how to do it, or when. I often end up not even attempting it because I don't want to come off too strong and frankly I also don't want to be rejected. Is it safest to just wait until date number 2? Or if not, how do you initiate a kiss on a first date? Read More 
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1 Stare at the person's mouth to show your interest. While this might seem a little silly, spending some time looking at the person's mouth can indicate you want to kiss them. Of course, you don't want to look at their mouth only, as gazing into their eyes is also romantic. Nonetheless, occasionally glancing at your date's lips can help indicate you want to kiss someone. 
2 Find ways to subtly touch them. This touch isn't necessarily an intimate touch. Rather, touch their arm or their shoulder as you talk, or move closer to them so your legs are touching. These small touches show you want to get closer.[1] 
3 Compliment the person. Tell the person you like the way they smile or that you find their humor charming. Everyone likes to hear nice things about themselves, and when you compliment someone, you show them you care. 
4 Observe their body language to see if they’re receptive. Your date’s body language will tell you a lot about whether they’re enjoying the date and whether they might like a smooch. Keep an eye out for open body language, and note if they return your flirty little touches. [3] 
5 Listen for verbal cues that they're interested. Just like you compliment your date to indicate your interest, if your date is interested in you, they'll likely flirt back in some way. They might compliment you, laugh at your jokes (and try to make you laugh), or indicate investment by asking you deeper questions to get to know you. 
1 Kiss on whichever date you feel comfortable. Some people choose to wait until their third date to kiss, while others are more comfortable kissing on the first date. There aren’t hard and fast rules about which date to kiss on, but generally, people kiss after they’ve spent some time together, gotten to know one another, and gotten a feel for whether the other person is up for a little smooching.[4] 
2 Wait until the end of the date to initiate a kiss. The end of the first, second, or third date is often when that magical first kiss occurs. Usually, a kiss acts as a goodbye—and though it doesn’t always mean a follow-up date is on the horizon, it’s a good way to let your date know if you’d like to see them again.[5] 
3 Pick somewhere private, but not too private. Some people are shy about kissing in front of other people. Find a place that's a bit secluded, such as your or your date’s front porch, or under a streetlight outside the restaurant you just ate at. Just make sure your kissing site isn’t too secluded, or your date might get nervous if they don’t know you well! 
4 Initiate a kiss when your date lingers. If someone wants to kiss you but is too shy to ask about it or to instigate a smooch themselves, they'll likely spend some time hanging around at the end of the date. So if their body language hasn’t already convinced you they might be receptive to locking lips, if they don’t rush off at the end of the date, it’s a sign they’re probably waiting for a little kiss. 
1 Look the person in the eye to show them you desire them. Now that you've found the perfect spot and time, take a moment just to look the person in the eye. Gazing into someone's eyes can be quite intimate, as most people don't spend more than a few seconds looking into someone else's eyes. Hold the person's gaze as you contemplate kissing them. 
2 Slowly lean in closer. Leaning in indicates you want to get more intimate, and going slowly gives your date a heads-up that you’re going to kiss them. If they don't want to kiss, going slow gives them a chance to lean away or to turn your head so you kiss their cheek. 
3 If you’re not sure, ask if they want to be kissed. Consent is important, and while body language can tell you a lot about someone’s intentions, it’s often unclear what a person wants unless you come out and ask. Asking if you can kiss someone doesn't need to break the moment. Rather, it shows you respect the person enough to ask.[7] 
4 Move in for the kiss. Once you know they’re up for it, it’s time to plant a kiss. Bring your face in closer, but let the other person come part way. Even if they said yes, it's good to let them make part of the move, so you know for sure they want it. You'll both need to tilt a bit so you don't bump noses, then move on with the kissing part. 
5 Go easy on yourself if they reject your kiss. There are lots of reasons a person might reject a kiss, and while it can hurt, it’s important to respect their choice. Don’t take rejection too hard. It happens to everyone at some point![9] 
Imad Jbara Dating Coach Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth. 
wikiHow Staff Editor Staff Answer This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.