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Want to know how to get a guy hard (or someone with a penis)? Here are tips from a sex expert on how to get their blood flowing (literally).

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Be suggestive

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Suggestively talk about what you want to do to them later (or what you want them to do to you, of course). This will build anticipation and excitement. You can always (consensually, obviously) touch them discreetly while you're out - under the table, through the crotch of their trousers...

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Let them see you

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To appeal to their inner voyeur, choose sex positions where they can see your breasts bouncing up and down. And let them open your legs wide to see your vulva, before giving you oral sex.

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Use your hands (and toys!)

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Put your fingers inside yourself while they're watching, or let them watch as you use a vibrator. There's just something about seeing things disappear inside. Either go for a simple but effective bullet vibrator, or try a rabbit vibrator as they'll be able to watch it slowly going into your vagina.

Kiss them, obviously

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Okay so obviously kissing is pretty damn sexy. But it really gets ye olde imagination going too.

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Get naked

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This may seem a little... obvious. But seriously, get naked. If you're not totally in love with the idea of being fully naked, wear something that makes you feel really good. We're talking erotic lingerie here, FYI.

Muscle up while they're inside you

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Clench your pelvic floor muscles hard, grab your partner's butt, and pull them close. Take over the thrusting, and up the speed.

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Invest in some accessories

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Whatever your own personal style is, there'll be some sex-appropriate wear that suits you. Whether it's full on fetish wear that's your jam, or something more subtle, dressing in the right way for sex can make you more confident and them more, well, horny.

Leave the blinds up as you're having sex

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They don't have to know you saw the neighbours leaving 20 minutes ago. Some people like the idea of being caught, it all adds to the excitement.

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Send sexy pics

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As long as you're sexting safely, sending them some suggestive pics can only do one thing: turn them on.

Let them know how much you want them

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Make noise, move, hire a plane to stream a message across the sky – let there be no doubt in your partner's mind. Building up their confidence can only have a good effect on your sex.

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Forget to put knickers on

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Especially effective if you flash or tell them you're commando in situations where they can't actually do anything about it. Go to the bathroom at that stuffy dinner party, take your knickers off, and discreetly, under cover of the tablecloth, push them into your partner's pocket when you sit back down again. It's an oldie but a goodie.

Make out in a taxi

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Up to you how far you go – the kick is in knowing the driver is secretly watching in the rear-view mirror. True, the cab driver knows what you're doing but they can't see anything if you strategically position your inner thigh, your partner's hand and your pants.

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