How To Squirt Or Make Someone Squirt Like A Pro - Cosmopolitan

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• How to squirt
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• Squirting FAQs
• What is squirting?
• Is squirting pee?
• Squirting vs female ejaculation
• What does squirting feel like?
• Sex positions for squirting

You might have heard of squirting but may not be quite sure about what, exactly, it entails. Well, listen up: we’ve pulled together your guide to explain what exactly squirting is and how to make someone (or yourself) squirt.

A word to the wise, however, squirting doesn’t always occur for all women and people with vulvas (studies suggest it only happens for between 10-54% of us). For some it takes a lot of work to hit the right spot: maybe you’ve experienced a one hit wonder, while for others it happens on the first go and every time after. G-spot stimulation is a great way to up your foreplay game, as well as increasing the likelihood of squirting.

So now let’s get to the good stuff: how do you make someone squirt? We spoke to sex educator and Soft Paris co-founder Anne-Charlotte Desruelle, and certified sex expert and educator for Bedbible.com Isabelle Uren to get the juice.

How to squirt

While there’s no sure-fire way to squirt, being relaxed and stimulating the G-spot are the two best methods.

“The most important thing about exploring squirting alone or with a partner is to leave your expectations at the door!” says Uren. “Putting any pressure on yourself or your partner to squirt can cause performance anxiety and actually decrease your chances of it happening.”

The G-spot is a patch of textured flesh, located on the vaginal wall, 0.5 to 2 inches from the entrance (though keep in mind that there has been some scientific questioning over whether or not it exists and not all women or people with vulvas report having one). When stimulated to the point of orgasm, fluid is released from the vagina is located near the end of the urethra. The build-up to the big O can feel super intense — commonly compared to the urge to pee, but instead of peeing, you experience a deliciously intense orgasm.

“What we now know about the G-spot indicates that the feel-good sensations we associate with this area are, in fact, coming from stimulating the internal clitoral structure through the vaginal wall. This means that it’s more of a sensitive area than one specific spot, and its exact location and sensitivity will vary from person to person,” notes Uren.

Desruelle suggests three golden rules for squirting in her guide:

1. Take your time
2. Find your G-spot and stimulate it
3. Be patient — and check your expectations at the door!

“Go into this with a sense of curiosity and playfulness — and if it happens, it’s a nice surprise, but if not, you still will have had fun!” adds Uren.

1. Relax

It’s time to get comfortable! First up, get rid of all the tension in your body, ensure that you’re not going to be disturbed and leave yourself plenty of time. For extra peace of mind, you may also want to ‘waterproof’ the area by putting down several towels beneath you.

2. Locate your G-spot!

“There’s no scientific consensus as to why G-spot stimulation can lead to squirting, but for many people who squirt, this does seem to be a common trigger,” says Uren. So, if you’ve never squirted before and are looking to find out what works for you, this is the place to start.

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To find your G-spot:

• Sit on the floor and bend your knees with a mirror between your legs. If you need, open your labia.
• The G-spot can be found within the vagina, around 0.5 to 2 inches from the entrance, on the vaginal wall towards the stomach.
• Place a finger into your vagina and curl it upwards towards your belly button.
• There should be a patch of flesh like the surface of a golf ball, or the skin of an orange.

Uren recommends using “a firm, curved dildo or wand” to “make it easier to find the right angle and provide a deep massage, but if you don’t have either of those you can also use a finger or two”.

3. Stimulate your G-spot

Softly and slowly stimulate the G-spot. Keep in mind that this isn’t a race or performance and be sure to go at your own pace.

• Lube, lube, lube! We can’t undersell the importance of lots of lubricant. In addition to making the experience loads better, it will also lessen the risk of soreness, pain or injury.
• Opt for a water-based lube (it’s true that silicone lubricant can be longer-lasting, but the downside is that they can’t be used with all condoms and silicone toys).
• Stimulate your G-spot with your fingers or use a G-spot vibrator that has the right angle to hit your G-spot. A G-spot vibrator can make the zone more easily reachable, which means it’s more easily stimulated.

As your G-spot gets stimulated and you start feeling more aroused, the erectile tissue will fill with blood and the G-spot and the labia will get larger. Keep in mind that parts of the G-spot may feel sore, so take care to stimulate the sore parts gently.

“Some people also squirt from clitoral stimulation, so it’s all about finding out what works for you. On the whole, it seems most people need more intense stimulation to squirt,” suggests Uren.

“Another thing to keep in mind is that squirting can happen with an orgasm or separately.”

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4. Listen to your body

Be conscious of the different sensations in your body and alter the pressure accordingly. Keep in mind that it should feel pleasant. Uren says: “Try to relax your pelvic floor muscles as your arousal builds. It can help to take deep breaths or bear down slightly with your pelvic floor muscles.”

For many women and people with vulvas, ejaculation will only take place after the vulva and G-spot have filled with blood become larger.

“Most people need intense stimulation to squirt, [but] it’s all about finding out what works for you”

Because the ejaculate originates from the urethra, feeling like you need to pee is a move in the right direction. “If you feel like you need to pee, try not to tense up but let that sensation build and give in to it. Rather than relating it to urinating, try to notice the specific sensations. Does it feel like heat, tingling, pressure, or something else?” says Uren.

Some people only squirt when the G-spot is being stimulated (for example, via penetration), for others, it’s the opposite and takes place when the vagina is not being penetrated, so it you may need to try a few different things to find what works for you.

How to squirt during sex

Squirting isn’t just for solo play, you might want to incorporate squirting into partnered sex too. This can could either be your partner making you squirt, you making them squirt — or both!

How to find your partner’s G-spot

“Insert a well-lubricated finger or two inside their vagina and curl them towards their belly button. Here you can start slowly stroking the front wall of their vagina. The partner being stimulated, will need to give their partner feedback about whether they are in the right spot and how much pressure they should use,” says Uren.

And remember, asking for directions is encouraged. They may already know where their G-spot is and be able to guide you. Even if they don’t, be sure to keep communication following so they can tell you what feels good — and what doesn’t.

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Squirting FAQs

What is squirting?

Squirting, for the uninitiated, is when liquid is expelled from the Skene glands (glands close to the urethra, FYI) in a short, sharp burst during arousal or orgasm.

The actual quantity of fluid can vary from person to person, and some people say that the sensation is akin to an intense, deep release, whereas some folks find it less intense than a clitoral orgasm.

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Is squirting pee?

You wouldn't be judged for thinking that squirting is pee. After all, the only other time we experience a gush of liquid leaving our bodies from below is when we go to the toilet. But to clear things up: squirting and peeing aren’t the same thing.

2014 research studied seven women before and after they’d squirted. The results found that while their bladders were full before they’d squirted and empty afterwards, the liquid released wasn’t just urine. Rather, it was fluid that contained prostate-specific antigens (PSAs), an enzyme produced in the Skene glands (two small ducts on either side of your urethra that help lubricate the vagina during sex). They found the squirting liquid to be made of water, with large amounts of sodium, urea, creatinine, and uric acid.

In 2022, more research was done. A similar conclusion was found to the study eight years earlier, explaining that the liquid comes from both the bladder and the Skene glands.

Squirting vs female ejaculation

There is a lot of academic back-and-forth and public misconceptions about what, exactly, squirting is. It’s sometimes referred to as ‘female ejaculation’ because it looks somewhat similar to the way men and people with penises orgasm. However, 2022 research suggests that this isn’t quite the case.

Current academic thinking is that squirting is a bit different from female ejaculation, which is when whiteish mucus-like fluid is expelled, in a small quantity, from the Bartholin’s glands — two, pea-sized glands to the left and right of the opening of the vagina which release a fluid which lubricates the vagina during sex.

And, just as an FYI, you can squirt and female ejaculate at the same time. Isn’t the human body wonderful?

What does squirting feel like?

It can vary between person to person - but it's definitely something you'll know you've done. Anecdotally, people who squirt often report producing a relatively large volume of fluid. In a 2021 study, some participants reported feeling 'sexually empowered' after they squirted.

However, not everyone particularly likes the feeling of squirting. Taking to Reddit, one woman wrote: "I’ve tried squirting, but it wasn’t pleasant - and I had to deal with an upset bladder for hours afterwards, which left me feeling like I had to pee constantly."

A second agreed: "Honestly, it’s very underwhelming. It’s like, the feeling like I have to pee, a release of liquid, and then just a mess."

It all depends from person to person, and whatever you feel comfortable with!

Sex positions for squirting

If you’re with a man or partner with a penis, or are using a strap-on, try cowgirl or doggy style sex positions.

Cowgirl allows you to be in complete control over both body and feeling, making it easier for you to feel your way to your G-spot.

Doggy style positions give your partner the chance to apply pressure on the frontal vagina lining, increasing the opportunities for G-spot stimulation.

And, lastly, remember that squirting may happen on your first attempt or it may take a few years… The most import thing is to be at ease with your body and ditch any expectations!

“You might also find that you can’t squirt, and that’s totally okay, and it has no bearing on the quality of your sex life! It’s important not to take the pleasure and fun out of sex by trying to perform!” concludes Uren.

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From: Cosmopolitan UKMegan WallaceFormer Sex and Relationships Editor

Megan Wallace (they/them) is Cosmopolitan UK’s Former Sex and Relationships Editor covering sexual pleasure, sex toys, LGBTQIA+ identity, dating and romance. They have covered sexuality and relationships for over five years and are the founder of the PULP zine, which publishes essays on culture and sex. In their spare time, they can be found exploring the London kink scene and planning dates on Feeld.

Paige VahlaFormer Sex & Relationships Editor

Paige Vahla (She/Her) is Cosmopolitan UK's former Sex & Relationships Editor covering all things sex, relationships, friends and family, and LGBTQ+. Think of her as your sex-positive best friend who offers expert insight and first-person perspectives when it comes to exploring the realm of love and sex. Whether you're updating your sex toy stash, getting over a friendship break-up or need answers to your burning relationship questions - she's got you covered. You can also follow her on Twitter.

Lois ShearingFormer Senior Sex and Relationship Writer

Lois Shearing is Cosmoplitan's Former Senior Sex and Relationship Writer. They have been writing about sex, sexuality, gender, politics, and relationships for almost ten years. Their writing on these topics has appeared in Mashable, The Independent, Metro, The Advocate, and Byline Times, among others. In 2021, they published their first book, Bi the Way with JKP. They are currently working on two other books, set to be published in 2024. In a previous life, they worked as a content marketer and content writer for various tech start-ups. They continue to be interested in the tech sector and its impact on our lives, relationships, and work, with particular regard to the ways AI will shape our relationships in the future. Outside of work, they are deeply passionate about queer community organising, and run the only support resource for bisexual survivors of sexual violence in the UK: the Bi Survivors Network. You can find them on Instagram and X.