How To Stop Being Horny All The Time - Men's Health

There are few feelings more all-consuming than horniness. When you’re horny, you can’t focus on anything besides gettin' it on. That's a good thing when it comes to your sex life, but sometimes, being horny isn't exactly ideal. You can't be popping boners in the middle of class, or while talking to your crush at the gym. And you can't be daydreaming about what it would be like to have sex with that hot stranger you saw on the subway when you're on deadline for a project at work. You need to stay focused, my man. But how do you just stop being horny?

If you're tired of being horny all day, every day, try making a sex schedule, says Shan Boodram, certified sexologist and K-Y’s intimacy educator. It might help curb your constant sex cravings to know there's an orgasm waiting for you at the end of the day. “Implement a sex routine so that it doesn't preoccupy your day,” Boodram says. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself rock hard at your desk when you’re supposed to be working on those TPS reports.

Masturbating more frequently can also help if you're horny all the time. If you're not sure when to do it, Boodram suggests using it as "a reward activity after doing something that you know you need to knock out daily (e.g. after a workout, shower, after reading a chapter of a book, after doing one errand you've been putting off).”

But what do you do if you're plagued by sudden horniness and need to put a stop to it ASAP—besides rushing to nearest cold shower? We asked seven guys for tips on what they do when they're horny at the wrong time. Here's what they said.

“I learned in high school that if you clench your calves intensely (as if you’re on your tippy-toes) for 10-15 seconds then the blood rushes to there and can help alleviate an inconvenient boner. Has worked for me without fail!”—Adam, 28.

“When I'm horny and there’s a build up of a lot of sexual energy, I combine meditative breaths with a visual practice to disperse this energy throughout my body, following the flow of my chakra. By the time I’ve finished this process, my sexual energy becomes [regular] energy and I feel less horny.”—Dame, 29.

“You just run to the bathroom and quickly jerk off. Next question.”—Sean, 23.

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“Focus on something else. Usually, I’m horny because I’m looking at something or someone. It’s not completely random. I just shift my focus to something else that is going on.”— James 33.

“I think of my Grandma. That does the trick.”—Daniel, 29.

“Close your eyes and take a few deep breathes to clear your mind. If that doesn’t work, just excuse yourself and jack off in the bathroom.”—Alex, 24.

“I scroll through Twitter and look at the news, and then I’m no longer horny. Just depressed.”—Fred, 30.

There you have it! Tips to prevent unwanted horniness and tips for when you’re horny in the moment. Oh, and apparently, there are a lot more guys jerking off in public bathrooms than I realized. The more you know!

Zachary Zane is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto and co-author of Men’s Health: Best. Sex. Ever. He is currently Grindr’s sex and relationship expert, and his work has been featured in the New York Times, Rolling Stone, Washington Post, Cosmo, GQ, Playboy, and more.