If She Blocks You It Means She Loves You, Right?

Updated on November 2, 2021

If a girl blocks you, it doesn’t necessarily mean that she loves you. It could just mean that she needs time to herself and that she’s trying to protect herself from getting hurt or feeling disgusted and annoyed. Which of these three emotions she feels depends on the connection she had with you prior to blocking you.

If she was your lover and became an ex, she likely blocked you out of revulsion and anger. She couldn’t stand your presence anymore because she grew resentful of you.

If she was someone you went out on a few dates with, she likely blocked you because she wasn’t happy with some of the things you said or did. She felt misunderstood, so she decided to part ways without having an awkward conversation about it (many people do this because they’re afraid of being honest).

And if she was really into you but you were mean and unreceptive throughout the relationship or during the dating phase, it’s possible that she blocked you to stop feeling unworthy and miserable. In that case, the girl blocked you to get her mind off of you and to focus on herself.

If you want this person to unblock you and hopefully communicate with you again, you’ve got to understand that this could take time and patience. She’d thought long and hard before she blocked you, which means that it’s going to take her time to unblock you and that she doesn’t want you to reason with her and annoy her.

If you try to reason with her by messaging her on a platform she hasn’t blocked you on yet, you’ll most likely smother her and let her know that you need her more than you respect her.

This will, in turn, give her more power and control and put you at her mercy if she decides to unblock you.

So before you chase after someone who blocked you, bear in mind that she doesn’t want nor deserve your attention right now. She may be hurt, but she decided to deal with that hurt on her own. It doesn’t matter if you ignored her every time she opened up her problems to you or did something no one should ever do.

Now that you’re blocked, you mustn’t try to get unblocked. At least not by begging her to speak to you. The only way you should get unblocked is by staying away from her and letting her unblock you of her own free will.

That’s the only way you’ll regain your power and importance and get another shot at making things right.

If you’re convinced that when a girl blocks you it means she loves you, read through this article. It might change your perspective on blocking behavior and give you some tips on what to do.

Why do people block others?

Most people block others’ phone numbers and social media accounts because they feel disrespected or underappreciated. They feel that the person they talk to gives them a lot less than they give (or too much attention), so they put up with “injustice” for as long as they can until they explode and block.

Such people fail to express to the other person how they feel, which is why they often lose control over their thoughts and feelings and react impulsively.

Sometimes their bottled-up feelings make them angry and sometimes they cause them to resort to blocking. How a person acts or reacts depends on his or her morals and self-control. The better this skill and trait are, the less likely it is that a person will lose his/her cool and take it out on the other person.

So if a woman you dated blocked you, bear in mind that there could be a few explanations for her behavior. But the most important ones you need to be aware of you can find in the picture below.

Although blocking, ignoring, threatening, and ghosting on social media is inexcusable, it’s also possible that something you did made this person feel uncomfortable, scared, angry, or disrespected. My advice is to reflect on your behavior and figure out if you somehow contributed to her blocking.

You might realize that you weren’t as thoughtful of her feelings as you thought you were.

If she blocks you while you’re together

If a girl in a relationship blocks you during an argument or a disagreement, she still loves you. She’s still with you, so yes, love and connection are still there.

But even though your girlfriend loves you, you must consider her behavior a huge red flag. If you and your girlfriend don’t find a way to break this pattern of blocking and unblocking, you’re soon going to break up – probably for good.

It may not be now or in the next year, but eventually, your relationship is going to reach a point of no return and leave the more attached person brokenhearted. So before it gets to this, talk to your girlfriend (when she unblocks you) and learn why she blocked you.

Whether it’s because of something you did or because she has poor impulse control, communication is something you’ll need to work on. You’ll also need to promise each other not to repeat the same behaviors, develop self-control, and commit to positive thinking.

Growing inside will take time, but if you have the will to grow, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to overcome this blocking issue.

The most important thing right now though is to wait for your girlfriend to overcome her anger and pain. She has to see that she went too far and come back to apologize. That’s when you can propose changes and improvements and possibly even consider getting couples therapy.

Taking your partner’s relationship advice seriously is not always easy because you consider his or her views to be subjective. But a therapist or a non-biased friend with relationship experience can point you both in the right direction.

He or she can tell you that immature people with low self-control block people and that you must respect each other or the relationship will collapse in on itself.

So if you want your relationship to be successful, begin working on yourself immediately. Your girlfriend can join in once she returns and sees that you’re serious about making some important changes.

If she blocks you after a few dates

If a girl blocks you after a date or a few dates, you need to know that the girl doesn’t like you enough. She may be more attracted to other guys and can’t focus on you until she tries her luck with them.

Whatever you do, though, don’t blame yourself for her behavior. Just because she blocked you doesn’t mean that it’s your fault. It’s possible that she perceived you differently than you presented yourself and that instead of talking to you, she got frustrated and gave up on you.

If this is the case, there’s not much left for you to do. The girl clearly isn’t open to communication and thinks that the relationship with you isn’t worth pursuing. At least not now that she detached and pushed you away.

So what do you do while she’s focusing on herself and other people?

You focus on yourself and do your best to realize that she gave up on you very quickly. She either doesn’t like you, likes someone else, or wants to keep dating people to make sure she chooses “the right guy.”

Only time will tell what her intentions are.

But while you’re moving on, you should keep in mind that blocking people without an explanation is mean and rude. It’s rude even if she isn’t emotionally ready for a relationship and needs time to get over her ex first.

People have the ability to express their thoughts and feelings. If they don’t know how to use that ability, it’s evident that they haven’t developed it and focused on less important things instead. Remember that when you’re having a difficult time loving yourself.

If she blocks you after the breakup

When an ex-girlfriend blocks you after the breakup, it’s almost always out of anger and contempt. She has no interest and patience left to communicate, so she does the most self-protective thing she can think of.

She blocks you and pushes you away.

By doing so, she quickly stops feelings smothered and repulsed and guarantees herself a life filled with relief.

The best thing to do about a blocking ex-girlfriend is to do nothing at all. You must remember she’s going through the dumper stages and that she won’t respond well to anything you have to say. She especially won’t respond well if you come on strong and demand some kind of explanation as to why she blocked you after everything you’ve done for her.

Dumpers who resort to blocking don’t want to explain themselves. They just want to be left alone and enjoy everything their new life has to offer.

So if your ex broke up with you and blocked you, keep in mind that your ex doesn’t love you anymore and that she won’t love you until she’s processed the breakup and found a new reason to love you. A new reason to love you is something she can find only if she fails to find love or self-love on her journey to a happier life.

While your ex is taking her time to figure out if she’s happy, make sure to work on your flaws and get over her. You’ll need to make a lot of personal changes if you want your next relationship to be better and stronger.

I know it’s hard to be patient right now and to focus on anyone other than her, but you must understand that people block their exes because they refuse to face their negative emotions. Instead of trying to understand them and deal with them, they push them away and hide from them.

This means that next time they feel smothered or unhappy, they do the exact same thing. They block the person making them feel uncomfortable and pretend it’s that person’s fault.

If your ex blocked you, try not to blame yourself too much. Your ex has flaws too. She just doesn’t know that she does because she’s in control of her emotions right now.

When she loses control, though, she’ll be introduced to pain and realize that she also needs to self-invest. And that’s when she’ll come back and be forced to undergo a personal transformation.

People don’t block others out of love and care. They do it to protect themselves

If the girl you dated blocked you, the blocking obviously doesn’t indicate that she loves you. If anything, it indicates that she doesn’t love you and that she has trouble expressing her thoughts and feelings.

You need to be careful about this girl. If she shut you out once, she’ll likely continue to do that even after you’ve patched things up with her. People just don’t change without a reason. They change only when they want to or when they fear that they’ll lose what they have.

So if you’re serious about being with this person, wait for her to come back to you and take your power back. Show her that you won’t be with her if she doesn’t get her act together and break her blocking habit. The key to making it work with “a blocker” isn’t to let her be in control, but to stand up for yourself when she wants you back.

Don’t just brush it off and think that the problem will go away on its own.

Most people don’t do mean things only once. They say and do them consistently time after time because they feel uncomfortable or victimized. The same goes for the girl you like. She will treat you the same way in the future unless you steer her in the right direction the moment she unblocks you and wants you back.

The chances of her changing her behavioral patterns before she unblocks you are small. She may realize her mistakes and want to be a better person, but she won’t be a changed person the second she unblocks you and apologizes for blocking you.

If you don’t want her to take you for granted and treat you unfairly again, communicate your wants, needs, and demands right away. In your own words, tell her that you found her blocking behavior weak and disrespectful and that it’s her last chance to show you how badly she wants to be with you.

Your job as someone who got blocked isn’t to teach people right from wrong. It’s to respect yourself and make sure they respect you and never treat you the same way again.

What do you think? Do you think a girl who blocks you loves you and wants to be with you? Let me know your thoughts below the post.

And if you’d like to talk to us about your blocking ex-girlfriend, reach out to us here.

My name is Zan and I’m the founder of Magnet of Success. I enjoy writing realistic relationship and breakup articles and helping readers heal and grow. With more than 5 years of experience in the self-improvement, relationship, and breakup sphere, my goal is to provide advice that fosters positivity and success and avoids preventable mistakes and pain. Buy me a coffee, learn more about me, or get in touch today.

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