Instead Of Asking "what's Wrong With Me?"... - Gentle Power

Instead of asking “what’s wrong with me?” when you are feeling s**t, please, please, please ask a better question.

It’s important because the question you ask creates a framework for your thinking  which in turn sends your conclusions in a particular direction.

The what’s wrong with me question is understandable because we are conditioned to think in terms of “right” and “wrong” by the prevailing culture.

But this framework also CREATES the assumption of pathology and you’ll want to think twice if you want to do that, to go on a detour with that, on top of your existing challenge.

Far simpler, kinder and probably more accurate (in terms of the naked reality) is to ask yourself about what you are needing.

Your needs, an overview

When you enquire into your needs, chances are that you’ll draw a blank (if you’re not used to asking about that) or you’ll be considering too many possible answers.

I recommend you narrow down the search to these three essential need groups of any living organism. You may have one or all of them in the moment but see if you can select the most “alive” one to start with.

Are you needing:

* Nurturing? (on any level, emotional, nutritional, spiritual, tactile or practical)

* To let go? (to release what’s too much, not needed or not healthy to keep)

* To act? (to move and contribute from your life force)

This is my overwhelm-reducing hack into needs awareness.

The second good question to ask

Whichever need group seems most likely to be present for you in the moment, follow it up with another supportive question:

What is an already available way for me to access that right now?

Then, go and be (or do) that.

If it seems like the questions aren’t “working”

If it ISN’T working, you probably need to first let something go after all, most likely an assumption that’s masquerading as “just the way it is”.

Let go of a limiting assumption, to make room for reality.

Byron Katie told us long ago that reality is so much kinder than the stories we tell ourselves about it.

But we keep forgetting, ha ha.

Which is why I’m here to remind you.

Because good hearts are too needed now to stay stuck in overwhelm for long.

Hope this little pathway assists your to get flowing again.

Flow well!