The Difference Between Being Shy And Being Reserved

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• Thread starter prplchknz
• Start date Oct 28, 2013

prplchknz

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Joined Jun 11, 2007 Messages 34,421 MBTI Type yupp shy is where you're afraid of approaching other people/situations while reserve you don't have a problem doing those things but you don't voice most of what's on your mind not because you're scares (that would also be shyness) but rather you think it's irrelevant do you agree or disagree with this?

Ene

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Joined Aug 16, 2012 Messages 3,574 MBTI Type iNfj Enneagram 5w4 I agree. I consider myself reserved but not shy.

greenfairy

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Joined May 25, 2012 Messages 4,024 MBTI Type iNfj Enneagram 6w5 Instinctual Variant sx/sp

Ene said: I agree. I consider myself reserved but not shy. Click to expand...

I consider myself more the opposite, but somewhat reserved in that I am hesitant to get involved with people and discussions even when I want to. I have my own things to do, and I'm concerned people won't be interested in what I have to say and will think I'm butting in and stuff. Edit: That's a good thing about online forums; you can butt in pretty much wherever you want. B

baccheion

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Joined Jan 10, 2013 Messages 776 Reserved means quiet, as in the person doesn't talk much. Shy means the person is apprehensive and maybe anxious about putting themselves out there and talking to others (afraid of rejection, humiliation, etc). Shy often means the person wants to be more outgoing but fears doing so which results in them being quiet and withdrawn. Once the person overcomes their shyness, they may either become more outgoing, or may remain reserved but without the fear of engaging others.

prplchknz

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Joined Jun 11, 2007 Messages 34,421 MBTI Type yupp

CapLawyer said: Reserved means quiet, as in the person doesn't talk much. Shy means the person is apprehensive and maybe anxious about putting themselves out there and talking to others (afraid of rejection, humiliation, etc). Shy often means the person wants to be more outgoing but fears doing so which results in them being quiet and withdrawn. Once the person overcomes their shyness, they may either become more outgoing, or may remain reserved but without the fear of engaging others. Click to expand...

what I meant but you said it better thanks not sarcastic

Lady_X

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Joined Oct 27, 2008 Messages 18,231 MBTI Type ENFP Enneagram 784 Instinctual Variant sx/sp

greenfairy said: I consider myself more the opposite, but somewhat reserved in that I am hesitant to get involved with people and discussions even when I want to. I have my own things to do, and I'm concerned people won't be interested in what I have to say and will think I'm butting in and stuff. Edit: That's a good thing about online forums; you can butt in pretty much wherever you want. Click to expand...

haha! that's my favorite thing! people (strangers) don't typically like that irl S

Stansmith

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Reserved around strangers, shy around friends. 9

93JC

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Joined Dec 17, 2008 Messages 3,989 I agree with your assessment, prpl. I myself am often reserved, and sometimes shy. There's a very fine distinction between the two. I sympathize with other people around me who obviously can't tell whether I'm one from the other; after all there's no particular cue to pick up on. Being reserved has sometimes been misconstrued by others as a lack of interest on my part or even contempt for the people at hand. I often just don't have anything to add. I think it's easier for people to assume you're shy, and that you're just afraid of speaking up rather than having nothing to say. I wish I could remember a quote I heard, or even the person who told it to me. It's something along the lines of "You know you've found love when the silences between you are comfortable."

danseen

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Joined Oct 30, 2013 Messages 781 MBTI Type INTP Agree totally. I am reserved, but never shy. I don't really fear anybody, nor see ANY need to do so.

/DG/

silentigata ano (profile)

Joined Mar 19, 2009 Messages 4,601 I'd probably consider myself a little of both. Some days I'm more reserved than shy, while others I'm more shy than reserved.

Lady X said: haha! that's my favorite thing! people (strangers) don't typically like that irl Click to expand...

Yeah, well it gets really awkward. Once a couple of people I know were having a group bitch-fest about a certain person, when a random dude came and sat down in the middle of us. It was just so strange. He had no clue what we were talking about and he just stayed there until we had to leave. I applaud his balls, but it just didn't work out.

Rail Tracer

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prplchknz said: shy is where you're afraid of approaching other people/situations while reserve you don't have a problem doing those things but you don't voice most of what's on your mind not because you're scares (that would also be shyness) but rather you think it's irrelevant do you agree or disagree with this? Click to expand...

Pretty much. A person being reserved doesn't talk much not because he is shy, but because he just doesn't talk much. A shy person is willing to talk more, but trying to talk/meet with people can be a source of apprehension. Of course, one can be both reserved AND shy, wherein one doesn't like to talk much, but when one needs to talk, it is a source of apprehension.

cafe

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Joined Apr 19, 2007 Messages 9,827 MBTI Type INFJ Enneagram 9w1 I'm more shy than reserved, though I can be both. If I'm feeling comfortable around people I'm generally a chatterbox.

Thalassa

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Joined May 3, 2009 Messages 25,183 MBTI Type ISFP Enneagram 6w7 Instinctual Variant sx I am not shy. However I don't like to be bothered, and I will even be rude to strangers if they insist on talking at me. However some people interpret it as shyness. But I am not. I will be very open if I feel comfortable and like socializing. I finally learned that at least in MBTI terms I am an introvert, because people take my energy and I have to be alone to recharge. On the other hand I am extremely expressive in writing, or when I feel like talking. I am an ambivert. I am very quiet until I am not. It's not so much that I am quiet as that I need my own space. Lots of space.

tkae.

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prplchknz said: shy is where you're afraid of approaching other people/situations while reserve you don't have a problem doing those things but you don't voice most of what's on your mind not because you're scares (that would also be shyness) but rather you think it's irrelevant do you agree or disagree with this? Click to expand...

I'd agree with that. I'm both shy and reserved. My shyness is why I try to avoid you before I meet you. My reservedness is why I look at what you're wearing and steer the conversation away from appearances and fashion. You must log in or register to reply here. Share: Facebook Twitter Reddit Pinterest Tumblr WhatsApp Email Share Link

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