Typical Dutch Behaviour By Dutch People

Happy people

The Netherlands is ranked fifth in the World Hapiness Report. So Dutch people are happy, but they love to complain. However this is not in a serious way. The weather is a great topic to complain about, but so is work and of course politics and football. If you listen to Dutch people you might think we are a pretty unhappy lot. But the contrary is true: we are very happy. Perhaps one of the reasons is that we do not take some of our troubles and worries home is because we have had the chance to get them of our chest before we get home. Please do not be surprised when you hear a Dutch person complaining to you. It’s not personal and we do not expect you to solve our problems. We are merely making conversation.

Greetings

When Dutch people meet for the first time they shake hands. The handshake should be made with the right hand and should be firm (without squashing the other’s hand) and short. If you are well acquainted (usually after meeting for the third time) women kiss each other on the cheek three times. Women also greet men they know well in this manner. Men usually only shake hands.

Direct approach

Dutch people do not beat around the bush and will often speak their minds. This can seem rather rude and almost feel insulting to foreign people (e.g: ‘I have read you report and it is awful’). However, Dutch people prefer to be open about their opinion and if it is presented in a kind and friendly manner, this is usually regarded as good. It is considered as being honest, where being too subtle and polite can create misunderstanding (e.g. as in ‘I can see that you have worked very hard on this report and I do appreciate the time you spend on it’). However it can be a bit shocking when confronted for the first time with Dutch straight forwardness.

Punctuality

You should always keep an eye on the time and make sure you are present at the agreed time. That means not too early and not too late. If you are delayed, it is appreciated and seen as good manners to call. You should not be surprised to be told off firmly if you are late without a good reason.

Unannounced visit

Dutch people will always count on you making an appointment before any visit, no matter how short or insignificant or impulsive the visit is. This means that if you are in the neighbourhood of someone’s house and you wish to visit unexpectedly, you usually call or app first to announce your imminent arrival (thereby giving the other person the chance to politely inform you that it will not be convenient). It might actually happen that the person who opens the door will have a conversation with you on the doorstep without inviting you in (even when it is raining). So, call a few minutes before arriving and you will be most likely welcomed in.