Want Him To Come Inside You? What To Know Before Sex

Skip navigation!ADVERTISEMENTStory from SexADVERTISEMENTWhat To Know Before You Ask Your Partner To Come Inside YouErika W. SmithLast Updated January 31, 2020, 8:28 PM Photographed by Natalia Mantini.From pearl necklaces to facials (not the spa kind), there’s plenty of things to do with cum. But by far the most popular remains coming inside the vagina.In 2018, sexuality site Bad Girls Bible published what they called “the world’s first ‘semen census,” in which they polled 740 men and women on their “ejaculation habits.” Although they surveyed people of all sexualities, they only published the data for cis straight people. “Inside the vagina” was the most popular location, with 92% saying the man comes there “sometimes” or “often.” Other popular locations included on the outside of the woman’s body, particularly the chest or mons pubis, and in the woman’s mouth.AdvertisementADVERTISEMENTOf those 92%, one-third said they or their partner came inside without using any form of birth control. Half used a condom, and 54% used a different method of birth control. (Yes, that adds up to over 100%, presumably because some people doubled up on birth control — for example, using a condom while taking the pill.)A quick visit to Reddit’s AskMen finds plenty of explanations for why people like coming inside: “Feels amazing. Pulling out is kinda like cutting it short right at the good part,” one man wrote. “It does make me feel closer to the girl, and I think it makes her feel closer to me as well,” another added. “There's a continued stimulation for being inside. It also comes with a very close and natural feeling conclusion when you can flop over onto her and give her loving kisses as you both wind down. Feels more close, more romantic,” wrote a third.AskWomen also had plenty of fans of the act. “Love it. Feels absolutely amazing,” wrote one. "The intimacy of taking a partner inside of me, and then holding a part of him inside of me afterwards, is awesome to me,” another woman described. “I f*cking love it like whoa. There's something so ridiculously sexy about it for me that I'm frequently reduced to begging for my partner to cum inside of me,” another added.Ejaculating inside the vagina does increase the risk of pregnancy and STI transmission. If you’re into it, it’s safest to either use a condom or, if you're sure of you and your partner's STI status, another form of birth control. As Planned Parenthood explains, “Condoms are a really good way to prevent transmission of STIs. Just be sure to use a condom for the entire time you have sex — which means putting it on right before you start having sex, and then taking it off after ejaculation.”AdvertisementADVERTISEMENT RelationshipsI Use Romantasy Books As “Masturbation Material” — Is That Healthy?It’s 2 a.m. and the enemies in my new romantasy book have just turned into lovers — and it’s turning me on more than I expected. This is part of a faby Rebecca FearnOnline DatingReddit’s Dirtiest Pick-Up Lines Will Make You BlushWe’re all familiar with “Hey baby, what’s your sign?” and “If I could rearrange the alphabet, I’d put U and I together.” But what about… diby Erika W. SmithWellness6 Signs You Just Had An OrgasmYou might have heard an orgasm described as a vaginal sneeze or called “la petite mort” — French for “the little death.” Others might describe orby Erika W. SmithAdvertisementADVERTISEMENTRelationshipsDating Is So Bleak, Even The Anxious Girlies Are Becoming AvoidantAre you anxious, avoidant or secure? What’s rarely discussed is whether people can switch from one camp to another. People wear their “anxious” labelby Tanyel MustafaSexThe Sexual Hygiene Habit You Should Never SkipThere are two rules that anyone having anal sex has hopefully heard before: First, always use lube; second, don’t go straight from anal sex to vaginaby Cory StiegBodyIf Your Vulva Is Tingling, This Might Be WhyDepending on the situation, your vulva can sometimes feel wet, itchy, burning, or swollen. Sometimes a new feeling in your vagina is the result of a healthby Erika W. SmithSex17 Steamy & Free Erotic Literature Sitesby Kasandra BrabawSexThe Kama Sutra Sex Positions You Didn’t Know Existedby Lux AlptraumSexWhat To Do When Doggy Style Sex Gets UncomfortableDoggy style is one of the most universally popular sex positions, at least according to both online surveys and Google search data. It requires no flexibilby Cory StiegRelationshipsWhat To Say If You Get Tongue-Tied During Phone Sexby Cory StiegSexOut Of Sexting Ideas? Try Theseby Kimberly TruongSex21 Steamy Erotic Stories Written By Women — & Why They’re Importantby Rachel Kramer BusselAdvertisementADVERTISEMENTADVERTISEMENTADVERTISEMENT