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Terms of Use wikiHow is where trusted research and expert knowledge come together. Learn why people trust wikiHow What Does It Mean When a Girl Stares at You? (11 Reasons & How to Respond) PDF download Download Article Explore this Article IN THIS ARTICLE 1 She thinks you're interesting. 2 She wants to talk and learn more about you. 3 She's talking to friends about you. 4 She's checking you out. 5 She has a crush on you. 6 She's flirting with you. 7 She's falling in love with you. 8 She's reminded of someone else. 9 She's staring at you subconsciously. 10 She's upset with you. 11 She's trying to make someone else jealous. + Show 8 more... - Show less... Other Sections Questions & Answers Video Related Articles References Written by Joshua Pompey | Edited by Glenn Carreau

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This article was written by Joshua Pompey and by wikiHow staff writer, Glenn Carreau. Joshua Pompey is a Relationship Expert and Founder of Next Evolution Matchmaking (NEM) based in New York City, NY. With over 15 years in the industry, Joshua helps his clients navigate online dating and has a success rate of over 99%. His work has been featured in CNBC, Good Morning America, Wired, and Refinery29 and he has been referred to as the best online dater in the world. There are 7 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources. This article has been viewed 514,637 times.

Do you keep noticing a girl looking over at you, and you're not sure what it means? No worries. Staring is often a great sign in the dating world and a cue for you to make your move. Keep reading, and we'll explain the different reasons a girl could be staring at you—plus how to recognize each one and respond accordingly!This article is based on an interview with our relationship expert, Joshua Pompey. Check out the full interview here.

Things You Should Know

  • If she's giving you a friendly look or watching you do something fun, staring might be a sign that she wants to be friends.
  • If she's gazing deep into your eyes while smiling and/or initiating touch, she may have a crush on you.
  • If she's glaring at you, she could be mad at you or someone else in her life.

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1

She thinks you're interesting.

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  1. Even if it's not flirting, a unique quality of yours could intrigue her. Even if it's not flirting, a unique quality of yours could intrigue her. She might notice the way you speak, an activity you're doing well, or your impeccable fashion sense. If she finds you interesting, her eyes will be fixed on whatever part of you draws her attention—meaning she's not necessarily giving you a flirty look or trying to catch your eyes.[1] Girls might watch you this way because:
    • You're practicing a skill she wants to learn or finds fascinating, like beating a level in a video game or sketching in a notebook.
    • You're telling a compelling story and gesturing with your hands for dramatic effect.
    • You're talking, and it's difficult to hear, so she's staring at your lips to get a sense of what you say.
    • If she compliments you, say “thanks” and have a friendly chat with her (if you want to). If not, you can always just keep doing whatever you were doing.
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She wants to talk and learn more about you.

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  1. Staring while in conversation is a sign that she finds you captivating. Staring while in conversation is a sign that she finds you captivating. As you talk to this girl, you'll notice her making a lot of eye contact, smiling, and leaning forward towards you simultaneously. She might break eye contact every so often (which is natural) but will quickly and earnestly meet your gaze again. This means she's enjoying your conversation and wants to keep talking to you![2]
    • If she's interested in continuing the conversation, she'll also listen actively. That means she's giving you her full attention, letting you finish your thoughts before replying, and asking thoughtful follow-up questions.
    • Tell her about yourself and show her the interest is mutual by asking some thoughtful open-ended questions that allow you both to get to know one another better.
3

She's talking to friends about you.

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  1. She might stare while discussing her crush on you with friends. She might stare while discussing her crush on you with friends. Do you share any friends or acquaintances? She might like you and want to tell her friends about it. If she's staring at you consciously or stealing glances but avoids making actual eye contact (while surrounded by a group of friends), she's likely talking about you.[3]
    • It’s also possible she could be gossiping if she heard something about you and wanted to discuss it with other friends.
    • You can tell whether the discussion is good or bad by looking at their faces. The girl could be talking about a crush if she's smiling and giggling with her friends. If they all look serious, it might be a negative rumor.
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She's checking you out.

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  1. Smiling and looking at you often is a surefire sign of attraction. Smiling and looking at you often is a surefire sign of attraction. When a girl is attracted to you, she'll look at you appreciatively and consciously—hoping you'll notice rather than sneaking glances without really thinking about it. She'll also try to meet your gaze and make eye contact while smiling at you.[4]
    • If you see a girl checking you out, she might be sending signals that she'd like to chat. Head over and introduce yourself, but be sure to respect her space if it turns out she was just looking!
5

She has a crush on you.

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  1. Looking at you intently and initiating small touches means she likes you. Looking at you intently and initiating small touches means she likes you. When she develops romantic feelings for you (beyond just attraction), she might try to convey her crush when she hangs out with you. A girl that likes you will make eye contact while brushing your arm, elbow, or hands softly while you talk.[5]
    • She may also act nervous since talking to a crush can feel so intense! If you notice her talking fast and blurting things out in a way that she doesn't do with others, she's probably crushing on you.
    • If you like her too, send a few signals that the crush is mutual. You could even come right out and ask her on a date if you’re confident that both of you are interested.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 2311 wikiHow readers to tell us what the clearest indicator was that a girl liked them, and 53% said prolonged eye contact. [Take Poll] Every girl is different (and you shouldn’t assume she likes you unless she says so), but this could be a strong sign that she’s interested!
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She's flirting with you.

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  1. Girls use their gaze to get attention and see if you feel the same. Girls use their gaze to get attention and see if you feel the same. When she's flirty, a girl will catch your eye and hold it; you'll be able to tell she's flirting because her look will be more sultry and seductive than a typical glace. She might also play with her hair, twirling it or brushing it with her fingers.[6]
    • If this happens as you talk to her, you'll also notice her smiling and giggling at your words, perhaps even playfully hitting you on the shoulder when you say something flirtatious.
    • To flirt back, meet her gaze strongly without letting your eyes dart over the room. This conveys confidence and attraction!
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She's falling in love with you.

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  1. A girl in love lights up when she sees you and gazes at you adoringly. A girl in love lights up when she sees you and gazes at you adoringly. If the two of you are an established couple and you catch her staring at you, she's likely doing it because it's second nature by now; she gravitates toward you when you're together and focuses on you more than other people she's with.[7] Other telltale signs that she's in love with you are:
    • She'll mirror your body language, making the same movement right after you do when you're together.
    • She smiles more often, and those smiles are usually directed at you.
    • She makes frequent eye contact, conveying feelings of warmth, tenderness, and affection.
    • If you love her back, then tell her! You can also show your love through physical affection; meet her eyes and smile back, or put an arm around her and hold her close.
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She's reminded of someone else.

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  1. You might look like a friend, relative, or even a celebrity she likes. You might look like a friend, relative, or even a celebrity she likes. In this case, you'll notice her subconsciously glancing at you for several seconds, as though she's not sure where she knows you from. She won't be trying to catch your eyes but instead studying your face carefully—and if she sees that you've noticed, she probably won't look again.
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She's staring at you subconsciously.

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  1. She may be looking in your direction because she's lost in thought. She may be looking in your direction because she's lost in thought. When people get dazed or preoccupied with an internal train of thought, they tend to settle their gaze on whatever is in front of them without seeing anything. A girl who looks at you but doesn't notice you might be busy daydreaming!
    • You can always just ignore someone staring in your direction. Alternatively, catch her eye and see how she reacts. If she looks away quickly, it was likely a subconscious stare.
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She's upset with you.

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  1. Some girls prefer passive-aggressive looks to confrontation when upset. Some girls prefer passive-aggressive looks to confrontation when upset. You may notice her glaring at you without a trace of a smile on her face, which implies she's upset or annoyed at you in some way. Other signs that she's upset include giving you the silent treatment or speaking sarcastically (and sometimes with deliberate rudeness) when she does talk to you.
    • If you think she's upset, think about why or when she started acting upset to give you a clue if you're unsure. Did you do something unintentionally hurtful, or could there be a misunderstanding between you?
    • Approach her and ask for open communication between you both. Tell her you'd like to fix the problem and work on a solution together.
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She's trying to make someone else jealous.

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  1. Some play mind games to make friends or love interests take notice. Some play mind games to make friends or love interests take notice. Girls who do this will stare at you to get your attention but also glance at the person they're trying to provoke and see if they've noticed. If you think a girl might just be trying to make someone else jealous, listen to your instincts and steer clear of her![8]
    • Keep an eye out for more signs. If she's playing with your feelings to make someone else jealous, she likely won't commit to much and will pull away from emotional intimacy, even if you go on dates together.[9]
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What are body language signs a woman is flirting? WikiGibbonSlinger293 WikiGibbonSlinger293 As a guy I always find it hard to tell if a girl is flirting with me, and I feel like I'm missing out on possible connections because of it. What are the body language signs I should be looking for to figure out if a girl is flirting or not? Please help! Read More Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP Clinical Therapist & Adjunct Professor Flirting can be hard to decipher unless you know what to look for. A lot of women smile a lot, laugh, and will often use body language. It could be a tap on the shoulder, a pat on the back, a flip of the hair. Try flirting back and see if she’s responsive. Give her a compliment, smile her way. Test the waters and see where you sail. Read More Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW Psychotherapist Here are some things to look for! Eye contact, smiling, giggling, tossing or playing with their hair, open body positioning (as opposed to crossed arms), and interest in the conversation are all signs.I am a licensed clinical social worker providing general information for educational purposes only. I am not liable for any decisions made or actions taken based on the information provided. Read More See all 7 Replies and Read Discussion

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  1. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201810/why-people-may-stare-you
  2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/201810/why-people-may-stare-at-you
  3. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/close-encounters/201812/why-do-we-people-who-are-similar-us
  4. ↑ Joshua Pompey. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
  5. ↑ Joshua Pompey. Relationship Expert. Expert Interview
  6. ↑ Eddy Baller. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
  7. ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/someone-likes-you/
  8. ↑ Joshua Pompey. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
  9. ↑ Joshua Pompey. Dating Coach. Expert Interview

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Joshua Pompey Written by: Joshua Pompey Relationship Expert This article was written by Joshua Pompey and by wikiHow staff writer, Glenn Carreau. Joshua Pompey is a Relationship Expert and Founder of Next Evolution Matchmaking (NEM) based in New York City, NY. With over 15 years in the industry, Joshua helps his clients navigate online dating and has a success rate of over 99%. His work has been featured in CNBC, Good Morning America, Wired, and Refinery29 and he has been referred to as the best online dater in the world. This article has been viewed 514,637 times. 87 votes - 79% Co-authors: 7 Updated: November 11, 2024 Views: 514,637 Categories: Body Language In other languages French Spanish German Indonesian Vietnamese Portuguese Dutch Italian Thai Turkish Arabic Chinese Korean Czech Japanese
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