When Your Husband Isn't A Spiritual Leader - Sarah Geringer

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When Your Husband Isn’t a Spiritual Leader – Sarah Geringer

May 1, 2020

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Liz on May 8, 2020 at 7:08 am
So many excellent nuggets in here! Too often Christians blame and bully women in unequally yoked marriages, so I’m so glad to see so much hope offered here! Blessings!
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Jenn on July 27, 2020 at 6:14 pm
I appreciate your thoughts on pursuing this w/ humility, walking through the grief of it, & remembering that it’s ultimately God Who is the spiritual leader. This normalized the situation. Thank u! ???? I’ll be passing your post along to some friends…
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- Amanda Davison on November 16, 2021 at 5:13 am
  I’m so glad this was encouraging, Jenn!
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Alexis Brouillette Jordan on November 16, 2021 at 3:43 am
I realize that some of my depression is due to the lack of Godly guidance from my husband during trials I may face. When I am in need of support as God would respond, I am left to hunger for it. My husband is a believer and Christian, but my spiritual needs are sorely unmet by my husband.
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- Amanda Davison on November 16, 2021 at 5:18 am
  Hi Alexis, it is important to grieve and walk through the pain of realizing your husband hasn’t been able to respond how you’d hope he would. I do challenge you to re-think the expectations you’ve placed on your husband as the spiritual leader. I realized well into our marriage that I had placed certain expectations on my husband as the spiritual leader that were unfair and quite frankly based off of what I had idolized in other marriages/homes. When we study Scripture we don’t see a detailed description of what it looks like to be a spiritual leader – yet many of us have created one ourselves! It might be that what you desire during seasons of trial you face is support, prayer, and Scripture from your husband – and potentially, sharing this desire with him might help? It might not, and it might be again that you grieve this, and seek the Lord to meet you there. Anyway, just my morning thoughts today. Thank you so much for sharing with us!!!
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Emily on May 11, 2022 at 8:53 pm
I really appreciate your encouragement and am happy to have come across your guidance in my time of need. If there’s one thing I would disagree in this is about not making it a point to attend worship service during vacations. It is your time to take communion and have fellowship with the brethren. Sticking to it is one of the ways my parents always showed me how important it was. Other than that, I found your words very encouraging. So, thank you and God bless you for them.
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