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If you've been played one too many times, you might be thinking of turning into a heartbreaker yourself. Confidence is key. Interested in learning more? Then keep reading.

Steps

Method 1 Method 1 of 3:

Developing the Right Attitude

1. 1 Have fun. This is rule number one of being a heartbreaker. Simply put, people who look like they're having fun give the impression that they are more fun to be around. One of the quickest ways to attract attention is present yourself in a fun-loving, light-hearted way.
   • This is easier to accomplish in some settings than it is in others, so choose your night-on-the-town spot carefully. For example, a club, party, or any event that involves dancing is a great avenue to showcase your fun side. In this sort of setting, dance like you don't care who watches. Doing so projects confidence and a certain carefree mood.
   • Smile often even when you don't necessarily feel like it. Laugh at jokes, even when they aren't necessarily funny.
   • Control your laugh. A light, flirtatious laugh will attract more positive attention than a boisterous guffaw.[1]
2. 2 Set the pace. Be the person in the crowd who decides when and what to do next, and never let your opinion get neglected.
   • If someone you flirt with suggests heading out to another spot, keep control of the situation by playfully teasing that you would rather hang out at your current location for a little while longer, even if you secretly want to go as well. Then, when the time is right, indicate that you are ready to move on. The key here is to show that the decision is on your terms, not someone else's.[2]
   • If asked where you want to go, come up with a place, even if you aren't dying to go there. This is another way to keep things going at your pace and establish a certain control of the night.
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3. 3 Play the crowd. When in a crowd of strangers, take the chance to make eyes at a few potential targets. Some may be turned off by the notion that they have competition, but others will either accept the challenge or find your obvious self-confidence attractive.
   • Another advantage created by this situation is that you project a certain boldness, suggesting that you can be just as happy without any given person on your arm as you will be with them. This may seem counter-intuitive at first, but you are, in some ways, throwing down the proverbial gauntlet and giving the people around you a challenge.
   • When approached by someone in particular, though, focus most of your attention on them. In order to be a heartbreaker, you will need to offer at least a little hope that the interaction might progress into something more.
4. 4 Only reveal emotion that benefits you. Keep your deepest thoughts and feelings a mystery and only reveal the ones that may help you in your quest to be a heartbreaker.
   • Keep the conversation light and away from serious topics. Also avoid conversations that will allow the other person to get to know a lot about you, or you them.
   • If your mood suddenly sours, resist the urge to express as much outwardly. Maintain the same cool, confident demeanor and work through the situation until you can leave.
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Method 2 Method 2 of 3:

Getting the Look

1. 1 Show a little skin. The key phrase here is “a little.” Choose clothes that subtly reveal flashes of skin without looking as though you're begging for attention. Reveal enough skin to stimulate the imagination while keeping enough hidden to keep that imagination going.
   • For example, you might wear a crop top, put on some low-rise jeans, or leave the top few buttons of your shirt undone.
2. 2 Flaunt your best features. Wear clothes that flatter your figure and draw attention to your best features while masking any features you may feel less-than-satisfied about.[3]
   • For example, if you’ve got great legs, you could show them off with a short skirt or a pair of form-fitting jeans.
   • You can also make your features stand out with a flattering haircut or style. Talk to your stylist about getting a cut that can bring out your cheekbones or accentuate your jawline, for instance.
3. 3 Splash on a little perfume or cologne. Wear a long-lasting perfume with a fragrance that appeals to you. Note, however, that some scents will assist you in your quest to be a heartbreaker faster than others.
   • Stay away from floral, green, and oceanic fragrances. While these scents are great for casual wear, they tend to be fairly light and may not have as strong an effect.
   • Lean toward woody, musky, and Oriental scents when choosing the right fragrance for your heartbreaker persona. These scents tend to be richer and spicier.
4. 4 Keep fragrances light so they’re not overpowering. Only spray a little perfume or cologne along the pulse points of your body--most notably, your wrists, the back of your knees, behind your ears, and at the front base of your neck. Using too much scent can make it hard for people to be around you, let alone fall all over themselves to be near you.
5. 5 Strut your stuff with the right shoes. For a night on the town, grab some stylish shoes. Pick a shoe that complements your outfit and brings your whole look together.
   • If you opt for high heels, choose a heel height you feel comfortable with. After all, if you end up tripping and falling flat on your face because you couldn't walk right, you might break an ankle but probably won't break any hearts.
   • While dress shoes are always a safe bet if you’re out at a club, you can also spice up most outfits with a sharp pair of sneakers, running shoes, or even boots.
   • Strappy heels are feminine and work well with most dresses and skirts. On the other hand, heeled ankle boots can look a little more “edgy” yet just as appealing.
6. 6 Use makeup to highlight key features, if you like. Makeup can enhance your natural looks, perfect your skin tone, or give your face a bold splash of color. Never cake on the makeup. Instead, focus on highlighting attractive features like your eyes and lips while keeping your complexion looking clear.
   • Use foundation and concealer to smooth your complexion. You can use a little powder, if desired, but keep this part of your makeup looking subtle.
   • Apply eye makeup with caution. If you really want to bring out your eyes, you will need mascara, eyeliner, and eyeshadow. Only use enough mascara to lift your eyelashes, and never apply so much that your lashes look lumpy. You can get a little creative with the eyeshadow, particularly if going out at night, but keep in mind that shadowy colors and rich gem hues tend to look better than bright, “clownish” colors.
   • Choose the right type of lip gloss or lipstick. If you have notably heavy eye makeup on, a gloss might be enough. You can get away with a lipstick if you downplay your eyes, though. Strong pinks and reds work well, but richer shades may look better than neon-bright shades.
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Method 3 Method 3 of 3:

Keeping the Act Going

1. 1 Take care of your body. Stay in shape and keep up on your basic hygiene routine so that you look your best both in and out of heartbreaker mode.
   • Stay fit and healthy with a balanced diet and exercise. If you’re not satisfied with your weight, keep your calorie count in check. If you want to stay at the weight you're at, make sure that the amount of calories you consume through food equals the amount of calories you burn through exercise. To lose weight, burn more calories than you consume. To gain weight, consume more calories than you burn.[4]
   • Bathe regularly. Showering every 1-2 days can keep your skin glowing and your hair clean and healthy.
   • Take care of your hair. If you have brittle, damaged hair, apply deep conditioners and other hair care products designed to infuse moisture back in. For limp, oily hair, look for products that regulate the balance of oil on your scalp.[5]
   • Take care of your skin. Aside from washing up, you also need to care for your skin by applying lotion after every bath or shower. Stay out of the sun and avoid products that could stain or damage your skin.
2. 2 Keep them wanting more. Never go too far with someone you only intend to play around with. The occasional flirtatious touch or kiss is still acceptable heartbreaker behavior, but never give the impression that you might be “easy.” On the contrary, you should make yourself seem like a challenge who never quite gives in.
   • The Marina & The Diamonds song puts it best: “Gotta be looking pure. / Kiss him goodbye at the door and leave him wanting more.”
3. 3 Avoid personal attachments. If you really want to avoid getting “trapped” or tied down, you will need to avoid giving out special treatment or getting to know any particular person too well.
   • Once you give your heart away to someone, your heartbreaking days are over. This is not necessarily a bad thing, of course, but it’s something to keep in mind.
4. 4 Move on before you get attached or develop a bad reputation. Avoid frequenting the same spots too often to avoid running into the same crowd. As more people begin recognizing you within a given crowd, you may start to build up a reputation as a heartbreaker, and even new people may stop approaching you. Advertisement

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Warnings

• Know where to draw the line. A heartbreaker who flirts casually is one matter, but a heartbreaker who leads someone on for months simply to be spoiled with gifts, money, and attention is another. The former still retains some respect, while the latter is unnecessarily cruel and asking for trouble. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0
• Remember the saying, “you reap what you sow.” A heartbreaker look and attitude can be a good way to protect yourself and attract romantic attention, but if you go around carelessly hurting others in a deep, long-lasting way, you may find yourself alone when all is said and done. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0
• Don't get attached or you will lose at the game of being a heartbreaker. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0

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References

1. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201706/womens-11-core-flirting-techniques
2. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/201801/why-the-hard-to-get-are-so-very-hard-to-get
3. ↑ https://www.thelist.com/92508/clothing-hacks-flatter-figure/
4. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201403/how-to-flirt-and-be-attractive
5. ↑ https://www.aad.org/public/skin-hair-nails/hair-care/tips-for-healthy-hair

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wikiHow is a “wiki,” similar to Wikipedia, which means that many of our articles are co-written by multiple authors. To create this article, 46 people, some anonymous, worked to edit and improve it over time. This article has been viewed 163,807 times. 326 votes - 73% Co-authors: 46 Updated: April 30, 2025 Views: 163,807 Article SummaryX

To be a heartbreaker, show your fun side and attract attention by getting out and meeting lots of people, like at clubs or parties. While you’re there, play the crowd by making eye contact with a few people to show your self-confidence and flirtatious personality. When others approach you, keep the conversation light and avoid letting them learn too much about your thoughts or feelings to avoid getting personally attached. Make sure to frequent a variety of night spots so you don’t get a reputation as a heartbreaker, otherwise new people will stop approaching you. To learn how to dress like a heartbreaker, keep reading! Did this summary help you?YesNo

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