How To Text Women So They Reply (Guide) | Conquer & Win

She never replied…now you’re wondering how to text women?

It seemed like you really hit it off when you met.

She was smiling, flirting, and enthusiastic.

Then...nothing. No reply. She ghosted you.

You messaged her expecting she'd get right back to you, but hours passed.

Then days, and she didn't even bother to say “Hi” back.

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Texting can be a powerful tool to set up a date, but it’s also where many guys go wrong.

You may have had a great conversation, exchanged numbers, and even bantered back and forth.

Everything seemed fine—until she stopped responding or hit you with the dreaded “I’m busy.”

I’ve messaged countless women with very little luck. The ones that do reply back end up messaging 3-5 times, but when I try to set up a date the text msg gets cold.

If you’ve ever been in this situation, don’t worry.

There’s a way to get more girls to reply and actually meet up in person. In this guide, we’ll cover:

• Why the “3-day rule” sucks
• How to text women so they reply
• Why long texts ruin your chances
• How to use texting to set up a date on your first message
• The biggest texting mistakes guys make
• Real texting examples you can use

Keep reading to master the art of texting and start getting more dates today.

1. Why Do Women Go Cold on Text and What Can You Do About It?

That feeling of excitement from meeting someone new quickly turns into disappointment when your text chat goes cold. Even worse is when she doesn’t even bother to reply.

You may have done everything right, yet she still ghosted you. The reality is, attractive women get asked out all the time. If you don’t stand out, another guy will take her attention.

How Can I Get Girls to Reply to My Messages?

Getting a girl to respond often boils down to avoiding common mistakes that kill attraction. If you’re guilty of the following, it’s time to adjust your approach:

• Sending long messages
• Telling her your life story
• Using the “3-day rule”
• Trying to make her like you over text
• Overtexting
• Constantly sending “good morning” and “good night” texts

The Phone is for Scheduling Dates

Texting isn’t about impressing her—it’s about getting her to meet you in person. If you wait too long to set up a date, she’ll cool off and move on. Keep it simple and direct.

A good example: "Hey Sarah, it was nice chatting with you earlier. Let’s grab a coffee this week. Are you free Thursday or Friday?"

2. Why You Can’t Win a Woman Over By Text

Some guys believe they can change a girl’s mind with the right texts. But here’s the truth: 90% of communication that creates attraction is missing when you text. No body language, no eye contact, no voice tonality.

If she wasn’t interested when you met, no text will change her mind. If you did a good job on your approach, or when you met her at the party etc. then she is already interested in meeting you, so now you just have to set up the date.

Attraction isn’t created with pixels on a phone—it happens in person.

3. The Purpose of Texting

There’s only one reason to text a girl: to set up a date.

Avoid overcomplicating things with “texting strategies” or long conversations. Once you have her number, your goal should be to meet up in person.

4. How to Text Women So They Reply

Women are drawn to men who are direct and confident. Your texts should be short, to the point, and move towards setting up a date quickly.

Use Her Name in Messages

• Example: "Hi Lisa, it was great meeting you earlier."

Reference Shared Experiences

• Example: "I enjoyed our chat at the bookstore. We should continue our conversation over coffee sometime. When are you free?"

Ask Open-Ended Questions

I don't really recommend "keeping a text conversation going" but this can help if you want to chat. Same for the rest of the advice in this section.

• Example: "What's been the highlight of your week so far?"

Share Interesting Photos

• Example: "Check out this amazing sunset from my hike today. Do you like hiking?"

Stay Positive and Upbeat

• Example: "Just finished a great workout session. Feeling energized! When's the last time you had a killer workout?"

Mirror Her Texting Style

• If she uses emojis often, use them too.
• If she keeps texts short, avoid sending long paragraphs.

Use Proper Grammar

• Just avoid looking like an illiterate 15 year old. Use proper punctuation.

Avoid Over-Texting

• Allow time between responses to build anticipation.
• Don’t text her constantly throughout the day.

5. The Three Simple Rules to Get More Dates

1. Message her the same day you met – Women get a lot of attention. If you wait, she might forget about you.
2. Set up a date in the first message – No need for endless conversations. Get to the point.
3. Keep it simple – Long, complicated messages make you look needy.

6. How to Text a Girl You Like (Examples)

Opening Text to a Girl

• Example: "Hey Jane, it was nice meeting you today. Let’s grab a coffee this weekend. What day works for you?"
• "but isn't this too quick? Shouldn't I try chatting first?" The answer is no. If she likes you, then she already wants to meet up. If you overdo the texting stuff you may push her away. It's also passive, which is the opposite of what attracts women. This obviously does not apply to online dating, only for cases where you already met in person and got her number.

How to Restart a Conversation

• Example: "Hey Anne, long time no see! I’ve been busy with work, so I lost touch. How have you been?"
• And make sure to follow up suggesting to meet up

What to Text Girls to Make Them Smile

• Example: "There are three kinds of people in this world—those who know math, and those who don’t…" Avoid overusing something like this. It can be a good way to reconnect though.

7. Some Things You Should Never Text To a Woman

Wikipedia has a popular post about texting and most of it is terrible. I'll update this later with more, but in the meantime here is one thing you should NEVER do that they suggest.

• Good morning! (and good night) This is something you should never text a woman who you just met. If you are actually dating it's different. But when you just met someone and you want to send a text that gets a reply, don't do it.
• Why? Besides being a pointless message that goes nowhere, It's needy and shows you have nothing better to do. It's also borderline stalker behavior and shows way too much interest.

8. Texting Q&A

1. How do you text a woman?

Keep it simple. Get to the point. Set up a date. Be assertive but not too serious. Confirm the day before to avoid no-shows. Use proper grammar.

2. Should I text a girl every day?

No. Texting daily looks needy. If she texts first, engage, but keep it light. Mix in a phone call if needed. Set up the date, then step back.

3. When should you stop texting a girl?

If she says she's not interested, gives one-word replies, or takes days to respond—stop. Recognize disinterest and move on.

4. How should I text a girl I like?

Stay cool. Treat her like any other girl. Only text to set up dates. Don’t overshare or send needy messages. Show interest in person, not over text.

5. What can I say instead of "hey"?

"Hey" is boring. Get to the point. Ask her out directly and see if she’s interested. Gauge her response—if she’s lukewarm, she’s probably not into you.

6. How do you make a girl want you?

Not through texting. Build attraction in person: strong eye contact, confidence, focused conversation, short dates, and making a move. Less texting, more real-life interaction.

7. How do you make a girl miss you?

She won’t miss you unless she likes you. Build a great life, stay busy, and don’t chase. Confidence is key—be direct, set plans, and lead.

8. How often should you text a girl?

Only when necessary. Text to set dates. After a first date, wait a day or two before reaching out. Let her initiate if she wants to chat.

9. What do you text your crush?

Same as anyone else. Keep it simple. Don’t over-text. Ask her out for coffee or a drink. Focus on in-person connection.

10. How do I ask out my crush?

Be direct: "Hey [name], I’m free this weekend, let’s grab a drink." No cheesy jokes. Keep it confident and clear.

11. What is the 3-day rule?

Outdated. Waiting makes you forgettable. Message her within hours or the next day to set up a date.

12. How can I impress a girl over text?

Don’t try. Confidence and independence are attractive. Let her prove herself to you, not the other way around.

13. Isn’t messaging her too soon needy?

No. Waiting too long makes you forgettable. Message confidently to set up a date—just don’t flood her inbox.

14. What should I say in my message?

Keep it direct: "Had a great time meeting you. When are you free for coffee?" Avoid weak phrases like "Would you like to?"—be assertive.

15. What if she gives me the "just friends" speech?

Walk away. Reply with: "I’m not interested in just being friends. Let me know if you change your mind." Don’t settle for less.

16. How do I handle online dating texts?

Initiate with something specific from her profile, then ask when she’s free. Online chemistry doesn’t mean much—meet in person fast.

17. How do I follow up if she doesn’t reply?

Wait a couple of days. If no response, send a simple "?" and move on if she stays silent. Don’t overthink it—plenty of other women out there.

Final Thoughts

Texting is just a tool to get a girl to meet you in person. The sooner you understand this, the more success you’ll have. Keep your messages short, direct, and always aim to set up a date. Now go out there and start texting with confidence!