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Easy Weddings Wedding Directory Marriage Celebrants Advice If someone objects to a wedding... what do you do?

If someone objects to a wedding... what do you do?

I know most people leave this part out... right? But if it did happen, what would you do? :)

Question Asked: 4/04/2017

Wedding Date: 2/06/2018

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Sharen Pelly Celebrant

(0) · Brisbane

Posted: 6/06/2017

It is not a legal requirement to ask this question. Your Notice of Intention to marry and Declaration of no legal Impediment have been signed. You are free by law to marry. I would state this and continue with the Ceremony with the couples approval.

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Ann Dally

(130) · Gold Coast, Tweed Heads, Kingscliff and Northern NSW

Posted: 17/05/2017

If you are having a Civil Ceremony (which your question does not mention), civil marriage celebrants do not, and are not required or encouraged to ask this question. This is only asked in a church, and I am happy to say that many modern ministers and priests today do not include this in their service/s. I train/deliver OPD to civil and religious marriage celebrants nationally and have never come across any who would mention this in their ceremonies (it has been openly discussed). It certainly would not hurt for you to clarify this with your officiant. To answer the other part of the question, "should it happen", (and it hasn't so far in over 1500 weddings) my husband, who is my permanent roadie, would most likely approach this "out-of-line" guest and explain quietly that this is inappropriate.

0 Northern Beaches North Shore Marriage Celebrants

(2) · Sydney

Posted: 8/05/2017

This question is not asked at the ceremony. Anyone who objects beforehand should not be invited.

0 Ceremonies by Cath - Catherine Flavell

(171) · New South Wales

Posted: 3/05/2017

Marriage ceremonies performed by civil celebrants do not include the 'objection' question as can be seen in many movies as it is not a legal requirement for celebrants to ask. As a bride and a groom signs the various paperwork presented by their celebrant leading up to the wedding, they are signing that they are two consenting adults who wish to marry each other (it's your choice) and are free to marry without any legal impediment. Any family members or friends objecting to your marriage are not given the opportunity to voice this at the ceremony - although they may have voiced it to the couple from the time they found out at the engagement including leading up to the wedding. If you can foresee that there will be troublesome person who may voice objection at your wedding, perhaps enlist a few friends to be on the alert to quietly escort this person away. Informing your celebrant will also give her/him the heads up as to how to handle the situation instead of it happening without his/her knowledge. Hope this helps you.

0 Kate Haley Civil Celebrant

(37) · Anywhere

Posted: 20/04/2017

No one includes it anymore! It certainly isn't a legal requirement so I personally wouldn't worry about it at all!

If there was a cause of concern that someone was going to attend that was possibly going to make people feel uncomfortable then it would be definitely worth mentioning to the celebrant and venue staff to ensure some measures were in place prior to the wedding day!

0 Simply Love Celebrant - Pauline Hunter-Knight

(0) · Sydney, Southern Highlands, Central Coast, Blue Mountains

Posted: 19/04/2017

This is an unhappy element to a joyous decision and Ceremony! - obviously...

Sometimes you know beforehand that someone may 'object' at the wedding, or indeed fear that they might.

In a Marriage Ceremony taken by your Celebrant, this is not included by law, and indeed rarely included anyway, unless the couple particularly ask for it. You will not!

You just have to believe in your love, and the power of it shared by all your other friends and family there - be it a very small, or larger wedding.

As a Celebrant, I would simply acknowledge the person objecting, and continue - 'that we are here to legally celebrate your evident love for each other, and to welcome you into Marriage.'

I think it's important to talk about any fears or relevant situations with your Celebrant, beforehand. There's no doubt that if you discuss potential worries, it often lessens your stress.

Your Celebrant will support you in every way.

0 Heart of Victoria

(6) · Melbourne & State Wide including Mornington, Yarra Valley, Daylesford, Warrnambool, Sorrento

Posted: 15/04/2017

You don't have to ask this question but if you decided too and someone did object I would make light of it and continue. Cheers Tania Broom

0 Denise Judge Celebrancy

(2) · Greater Sydney Area, North Coast & South Coast

Posted: 7/04/2017

It would be a very rare request to have this question included iin a ceremony in this day and age. The legalities of a marriage are established by the celebrant well before the ceremony! If this interjection did occur, I would firstly continue the ceremony.and ignore the objector..if the objector had an issue that may need further investigation, I would request a musical interlude and take the bride/groom and objector discreetly to another private area to continue the communication. I would then ask a responsible individual to escort the objector to the exit. I would then, seamlessly continue the ceremony!

If this question was included as a request by the bride and groom

0 Treasured Ceremonies

(18) · Byron Bay to Ballina , North Coast NSW and Gold Coast QLD

Posted: 7/04/2017

We no longer ask this question and is has been replaced with a declaration that both the bride and groom have to sign a couple of days prior to the ceremony. So, is we dont ask the question then no-one will answer. Honestly I would not let anyone interrupt the ceremony anyway

Mario

0 Wedding Matters - Hazel Balales

(7) · Adelaide & Surrounding Suburbs

Posted: 7/04/2017

Pause the ceremony in a professional manner. Politely inform person that there has been a declaration that there is no legal impediment to the ceremony taking place, and continue the ceremony. It is not a requirement to ask if there is an objection to the marriage. So don't ask the question. 0 Show more responses

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