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What Happens If Someone Objects at Your Wedding? Speak Now or Forever Hold Your Peace Download ArticleExplore this Article Sections 1 What happens if someone objects at my wedding? 2 History of Wedding Objections 3 Do you have to ask for objections in your wedding ceremony? 4 Can you stop someone from objecting at your wedding? 5 What if I want to object at a wedding? 6 Can I object after the wedding? + Show 3 more... - Show less... Other Sections VideoWATCH NOW Related Articles References Co-authored by Hannah Madden Reviewed by Seth Hall
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This article was reviewed by Seth Hall and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Seth T. Hall (ICF ACC, CLC, and MNLP) is a Certified Life Coach and Founder of Transformational Solutions, a Los Angeles-based life-coaching company that helps people achieve their toughest goals, find their own voice, and think outside the box. He has been a life coach for over 10 years, specializing in personal development, relationships, career and finance, and wellness. He has helped his clients break the negative cycles in their lives and replace them with a positive, proactive mindset. Seth believes that everyone has the potential to live a fulfilling and rewarding life, and works passionately to help them reach their full potential. With a deep understanding of how our minds work and the power of positive thinking, he encourages his clients to find their unique paths in life and find success on their own terms. He is a certified master practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, a featured co-author for WikiHow, and co-author of "The Mountain Method”, “The Happy Tiger”, and “The V.I.S.I.O.N.S. Program”. This article has been viewed 46,352 times.
We’ve all seen the rom coms: the officiant says “Speak now or forever hold your peace,” and a jilted lover stands up to object to the wedding. But do objections at weddings actually happen? And if so, how would you handle it? In this article, we’ll explain everything about wedding objections, from what might happen if someone objects to your wedding to what you should do if you want to object to a wedding. For the answers to all of your questions, read on!
Things You Should Know
If someone objects at your wedding, the officiant will pause the ceremony so you can chat with the person in private. Then, you can restart the ceremony.
Wedding objections are for legal issues only, not emotional ones. No one can stop a wedding unless they have a legal reason for doing so.
If you aren’t religious, you don’t have to ask for objections during your ceremony.
If you want to object at someone’s wedding, talk to them in private before the wedding instead.
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What happens if someone objects at my wedding?
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1 The officiant will pause the ceremony. If there is an objection at your wedding, it’s up to the officiant to proceed. Oftentimes, they will take a brief pause while they decide what to do and how to handle the rest of the ceremony.[1]XResearch source
If the objection is minor and doesn’t have any legal standing, the officiant may even just keep going with the ceremony without pausing.
2 You can have a private conversation with the objector before restarting the ceremony. It’s likely that the person who objects will want to speak with you and your partner. Take them to a private area and talk about their concerns. Then, whenever you’re ready, you can head back out and keep going with the ceremony.[2]XResearch source
If the person who objects isn’t willing to move on, you may have to ask them to leave.
It can be nerve wracking to think about someone objecting at your wedding. Keep in mind that this isn’t common, and it’s much more likely that your ceremony will go off without a hitch! Calm your nerves before the wedding by relaxing with friends and family the night before.
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History of Wedding Objections
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1 Wedding objections started in medieval times during the 12th century. They were used as a way to identify any legal issues with the bride and the groom—maybe one of them was already married, or one of them took a vow of celibacy. Since there was much less documentation back then, oftentimes, people could get away with a shady marriage if no one knew about their past.[3]XResearch source
2 Wedding objections are meant for legal issues, not emotional ones. In every wedding objection on television, there’s a huge declaration of love from an ex who wants to stop the wedding. In reality, though, that kind of objection wouldn’t matter—unless there’s a legal matter stopping the couple from getting married, an objection like that has no bearing on the wedding itself.[4]XResearch source
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Do you have to ask for objections in your wedding ceremony?
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No, you don’t have to include an opportunity for objections if you don’t want to. If you’re religious, especially in the Anglican or Episcopal church, there’s a good chance that your officiant will include this tradition automatically. However, you can ask them to edit the script and change the phrasing to simply ask your guests to welcome you and your partner with open arms.[5]XResearch source
If you’re not religious or you’re not having a religious ceremony, feel free to leave it out all together.
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Can you stop someone from objecting at your wedding?
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You may be able to dissuade someone from objecting if you talk to them first. There’s a good chance that you already know about the one person who may speak up at your wedding. If that’s the case, pull them aside for a private conversation a couple of days before the wedding. Talk about their concerns, and ask them not to disrupt your ceremony on the big day.[6]XResearch source
You might say something like, “I know you don’t approve of this marriage, but we’re in love and we will be getting married. If you have any objections, please keep them to yourself or talk with us in private about them.”
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Talk to the couple in private about your concerns if you want to object. Objecting during the wedding ceremony causes unnecessary drama, and it most likely won’t stop the wedding. If you really don’t want the couple to get married, pull them aside and express yourself privately. Chances are, they’ll be much more open to talking with you if you do it quietly and respectfully.[7]XResearch source
Remember, the only way to stop a wedding is if you have a legal reason why the couple can’t be married. In today’s modern age, almost every legal issue is brought up before the couple applies for their marriage license, so it’s very unlikely that you could shout something out that would stop a wedding.
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You can only object after the wedding in extreme circumstances. Once the couple has been married, there’s not a lot you can do to annul or dissolve their marriage license. However, if you have a legal or moral concern about the marriage, you can call the authorities or notify the courthouse that issued the marriage license.[8]XResearch source
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Reviewed by: Seth Hall Life Coach This article was reviewed by Seth Hall and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Seth T. Hall (ICF ACC, CLC, and MNLP) is a Certified Life Coach and Founder of Transformational Solutions, a Los Angeles-based life-coaching company that helps people achieve their toughest goals, find their own voice, and think outside the box. He has been a life coach for over 10 years, specializing in personal development, relationships, career and finance, and wellness. He has helped his clients break the negative cycles in their lives and replace them with a positive, proactive mindset. Seth believes that everyone has the potential to live a fulfilling and rewarding life, and works passionately to help them reach their full potential. With a deep understanding of how our minds work and the power of positive thinking, he encourages his clients to find their unique paths in life and find success on their own terms. He is a certified master practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, a featured co-author for WikiHow, and co-author of "The Mountain Method”, “The Happy Tiger”, and “The V.I.S.I.O.N.S. Program”. This article has been viewed 46,352 times. 1 votes - 100% Co-authors: 4Updated: April 29, 2024 Views: 46,352 Categories: Weddings In other languagesPortuguese
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Download Article Explore this Article Sections 1 What happens if someone objects at my wedding? 2 History of Wedding Objections 3 Do you have to ask for objections in your wedding ceremony? 4 Can you stop someone from objecting at your wedding? 5 What if I want to object at a wedding? 6 Can I object after the wedding? + Show 3 more... - Show less... Other Sections VideoWATCH NOW Related Articles References Co-authored by Hannah Madden Reviewed by Seth Hall 
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1 The officiant will pause the ceremony. If there is an objection at your wedding, it’s up to the officiant to proceed. Oftentimes, they will take a brief pause while they decide what to do and how to handle the rest of the ceremony.[1] 
2 You can have a private conversation with the objector before restarting the ceremony. It’s likely that the person who objects will want to speak with you and your partner. Take them to a private area and talk about their concerns. Then, whenever you’re ready, you can head back out and keep going with the ceremony.[2] 
1 Wedding objections started in medieval times during the 12th century. They were used as a way to identify any legal issues with the bride and the groom—maybe one of them was already married, or one of them took a vow of celibacy. Since there was much less documentation back then, oftentimes, people could get away with a shady marriage if no one knew about their past.[3] 
2 Wedding objections are meant for legal issues, not emotional ones. In every wedding objection on television, there’s a huge declaration of love from an ex who wants to stop the wedding. In reality, though, that kind of objection wouldn’t matter—unless there’s a legal matter stopping the couple from getting married, an objection like that has no bearing on the wedding itself.[4] Advertisement 
No, you don’t have to include an opportunity for objections if you don’t want to. If you’re religious, especially in the Anglican or Episcopal church, there’s a good chance that your officiant will include this tradition automatically. However, you can ask them to edit the script and change the phrasing to simply ask your guests to welcome you and your partner with open arms.[5] 
You may be able to dissuade someone from objecting if you talk to them first. There’s a good chance that you already know about the one person who may speak up at your wedding. If that’s the case, pull them aside for a private conversation a couple of days before the wedding. Talk about their concerns, and ask them not to disrupt your ceremony on the big day.[6] 
Talk to the couple in private about your concerns if you want to object. Objecting during the wedding ceremony causes unnecessary drama, and it most likely won’t stop the wedding. If you really don’t want the couple to get married, pull them aside and express yourself privately. Chances are, they’ll be much more open to talking with you if you do it quietly and respectfully.[7] 
You can only object after the wedding in extreme circumstances. Once the couple has been married, there’s not a lot you can do to annul or dissolve their marriage license. However, if you have a legal or moral concern about the marriage, you can call the authorities or notify the courthouse that issued the marriage license.[8] Advertisement